It’s hard to accept but this is a reality that in today’s generation most of the youngsters are lacking patience and confidence. For solving small and tiny issues regarding study, money problem, homework issues, and family problems these young children can take extreme steps. Instead of tackling the situation calmly sometimes they take other route, taking their own life or physically assaulting someone else is common between these teenagers. The news and various current reports about juvenile crime and suicides are really alarming.
Now the point is from where these children are getting this insecure, aggressive and elusive behavior. Stealing, lying substance abuse, aggression are some of the signs which can be seen in their actions. Are they learning it from the older generations or is this generation is over pampered and gets easy spoon feeding due to this they are getting strong head. Though family, teachers, peers, society and working atmosphere; all these elements play a big role in a child’s development. But being a mother of two adolescents, I would like to say that parenting is a pivotal part of a child’s progress in his or her life. And there are many factors behind these teenagers’ behavior problems and their violence.
1: Busy parents
It’s very obvious that if the parents don’t give proper time and care to their kids, later it would be a problem. If the parents don’t listen to their children views and plans and don’t take out quality time for them, later on a bridge of miscommunication builds between parents and them. So the first essential thing is to make a friendly atmosphere at home where your children can talk to you freely and open up their ideas. If the youngsters would get proper guidance and support from the parents, family they will never mislead their way in future. Remember good parenting means making your ward comfortable, happy and responding with you.
2: Secure your children but don’t overprotect them
Many parents make this mistake of overprotecting their children which can be harmful for the kids. When the children are small they really need the parents all the time to protect them but once the child enters teenage you must let him or her learn things by their own. Being overprotecting means you are not letting your child learn various things by their own. Parents can’t accompany everywhere with their children and they should allow the ward to make small decisions as an individual. When a child faces peer pressure or other stress, then he or she can’t cope with it as the overprotection provided by the family does not allow them to take any wise step. Over protected parents unintentionally make their kids life more difficult. Children of overprotected parents find it hard to deal the hardships and other frustrations of life. They have difficulties in making decisions and they can be soft target for bullies. We hear many cases where the youngster commit suicide in their study institute due to stress as they cannot handle anything alone and need parents defense around them all the time.
3: Don’t fulfill excessive demands of kids
Every parent want to give their children the best of everything, it is a good thing that a parent can fulfill all the requirements made by child. But one should keep in mind the difference between need and demand. Nowadays many parents provide their kids with unnecessary items, electric gadgets, expensive smartphones, vehicles etc. If your child really needs something and gains some knowledge from this all then it is acceptable. But sometimes children think that they can demand more and more as their parents are capable and can accomplish their loads happily. This habit can make them discontent asking for always additional and once you stop fulfilling their demand your kids will start disobeying you. Many kids start lying, stealing and disrespecting if they don’t get what they want.
4: Keep an eye on your youngsters internet browsing As you know Internet is so very useful and important these days. For school children to professionals it can be very helpful, the internet can be a great source of information. But like every other thing it has both positive and negative aspects. The way youngsters take help from the net in their studies, school projects, homework’s, university projects etc. is simply amusing. But this is also true that many teenagers use internet in a wrong way. Cyber bullies and fake net users can be seen anywhere who can ruin children’s mental wellbeing, positivity and will power. Also many children start browsing cheap porn sites and other obscene websites which deceive them in future. As a parent one must keep a check on websites visited by the child, keep your child informed about various incidents of cyber bullies.
5: Domestic violence
It is seen quite often that the children who see and face domestic violence become violent and loud. Children who become the victim of domestic fights, physical abuse and torture may lead to very anxious and aggressive mentality. This kind of stressful and abusive atmosphere can make children criminal or a depressive human in life. Never pick or instigate ugly fights in front of your kids and if you see anyone doing injustice stand strongly with the victim. This will be a lesson for your wards to be strong and fight with any kind of abuse in their future life
