Secret Behind Successful Marriage.
My nephew is getting married next week. Last month at his engagement some senior married people were discussing on marriage. My nephew asked me a simple but very interesting question .
Mama what is the secret of successful marriage?
Do we all have the correct answer?
Dear nephew since there is no one size that fits all, there is no one answer to your question. So far there is no such formula has been discovered to make the marriage successful. Many people think that the secret to a happy marriage remains a secret.
When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner no one wants to make a mistake, but sadly many enter marriage with no understanding, no preparation and no idea of how to achieve a lifetime of happiness with their chosen partner.
Many couples spend far more time planning for a one-day weddingthan for the lifelong marriage that should follow it.
What a marriage needs is not technical perfection like age norm, beauty or any such external factors but understanding and the willingness of the couples to accept each other as they are.
A Marriage teaches one the art of sharing and is the amalgamation of two lives that become one and create a beautiful world.
Marriage is the coming together of two individuals. So differences of opinions, feelings, desires, likes etc will be there. All this has to be accepted, and the willingness to adjust, compromise and accommodate each other should be there.
We need to accept the reality that two individuals are not born same, no marriage is or can be ideal. Marriage is a bliss. Marriage is an understanding between two individuals, and unfortunately this understanding has never been defined. And that’s a huge challenge. One has to take on this challenge and succeed.
The most important ingredient for the successful marriage life is complete trust in each other. Without trust and faith in marriage there would be so much insecure behavior floating around such as, distrust, doubt, suspicions, lying, jealousy & possessiveness.
Commitment and dedication are the other essential ingredients that make a marriage work. The foundation for a successful marriage should be laid with respect, understanding, acceptance, willingness to adjust and compromise, open communication channel, and of course lots of love and affection.Where there is love, the negative factors will automatically fall in place.
Nobody is perfect, we all are humans with different minds, different opinions, different philosophy and different approach towards life. When people with different kinds of minds get to gather at one place, conflicts are bound to take place. But any crisis in marriage can be resolved with love, respect, understanding, patience, trust and faith.
Communication channel should be open between the two. They should have the freedom to discuss everything with each other. Egos have no place in marriages.
Respect for each other’s feelings, opinions and likes or dislikes should be present. One can agree to disagree. Arguments are welcome, if they are healthy. Arguments will be there, after all two individuals are present. And it is ridiculous to expect agreement in all aspects. Issues of contention should be discussed till some solution acceptable to each is arrived at. After all this is marriage, not a world body bent on taking advantage of each other.
A good husband is not perfect. He's someone who is willing to grow. A good wife is not perfect. She is someone who is willing to grow. A good marriage is about compromise, communication, and understanding and to a point, even disagreements. It's how you handle all of those that really matter.
It is factors mentioned above that go to make a marriage successful. Not age, height, weight, beauty, skin color, or any such external factor. The sooner everybody realizes that, there are good chances of having successful and stable marriages.
Finally Marriage for the couples is an amalgamation of love, faith, sacrifices and genuine concern for each other.
My dear Nephew, On your Wedding Day A wish for a lifetime of beautiful tomorrows.
