Reflexivity, Symmetrivity and Transitivity in Love
Topic Seems so complicated na? And may be some might be feeling this must be classy! I will try to make it funnier in possible and Complicated in Some Extent!:P
Let me tell you, it is just part of Applied Mathematics!
This evening when I was in my room thinking about the tempting chocolate which caretaker has offered for best status updates and the same chocolate which SG21 is eyeing on, I thought to update a status, My mathematical Analysis on Love.
There is some term on Analysis part of Mathematics which talks about relation between two elements. Suppose there is a'Set'(A Set is a collection of well defined objects) and there are many elements in the set. The set is called to have Equivalence Relation if it fulfills one relation(denoted by'R') with every two elements satisfying
a) a element'x' is related to itself( We call this as reflexive relation)
b) a element x is related to y implies y is also related to'x'(We call this as symmetrivity)
c) a element x is related to y, y is related to z, then it implies x is also related to z .(Transitivity)
I realized, If the Love between two spouse satisfy all this 3 relations, it it True Love. If somewhere you felt that you can't accpet this rule, then there is some problem with your love.
Let me tell you 3 Simple rule of Love.
First Condition: Love yourself
The first condition of Reflexivity is that a element should be related to itself. This means, to make sure we are in true Love, we should Love ourselves first. Many times we see the person blindly in Love with other that they forget about themselves. Hunger, Huring our body and suicide are the preceding act, but this is no where Love. So the first rule is simple, Lets Love ourself first.
Remember, you might always be eager to see somebody around you, but when you see in mirror, first you see is yourself.
Second Condition: Be Equally Loved
The Second condition is rule of symmetrivity. This has been always argued because many people believe Love is not about expecting the same from others. But the world can't run in one sided love or Love where things are only given but not taken. It is good to expect something and It is good to be loved Back.
One of the course in social psychology had taught me that Love is the state of mind which gives happiness and peace to us and when we are equally loved in unmeasured way. It is wrong to measure and compare, but true Love needs to be loved back so that both love birds can stay happy.
Third Condition: Love the One your Love Loves
The Third Condition is rule of transitivity. It is one of the most broken rules in the history. But whoever has followed this, their relation has grown in happiness beyond any limit. Loving a person doesn't meant that loving only that particular person. It means Loving those person whom our Love Loves. The first example is'The parents of Our Spouse'.
Within relation, there are times when we ignore our Loved one's parents and we try to win or convince them mere by our laws, but with all these we are creating a vaccum in their life which we can never feel.
There can be one doubt to all regarding third condition. What if our spouse is in love with somebody then? Mostly this is one of the big problem in Relationship. If this happens that spouse loves somebody whom we can't love, then transitivity relation is not fulfilled, and Love is not totally ordered relation(This means Love is not in its place and things are wrong here)
This transitivity relation also talks about Loving the Dream of your Loved One. Try to fulfill them and Notice that happiness being reflected in their cheek.
So on time when things look like going down and within the time where every things are in our limit, let them know, the relation is'Equivalence Relation'(This also means every things are in its place) and give a sweet assurance saying, " I am always there"
N.B. If a love is one sided(i.e. that doesn't follow symmetrivity), then it is called partially ordered relation which has lots of pain, lots of sacrifice and very little happiness.
Next Mathematics Class after I complete MSc Thesis.
till then, Grow in love, Share Love
and Fulfill the'Total Order Relation' Property of Love.
Regards
Suraj
