Before marriage I used to think my "soul mate" is out there somewhere, that individual who can complement me and fulfill me like no one else? Is there one man or woman who is ideally suited to you? Is it your task to find this mystery person?
Surprisingly, many singles hold to the notion-either consciously or subconsciously-that there is one perfect, preordained partner for them. They were made for each other, the thinking goes, and they must simply locate this person or forever feel incomplete.
This thinking is fueled by many films love stories in which a man and woman are united after a series of near misses and obstacles. At long last, they gaze deeply into each other's eyes and embrace, usually amidst the swell of romantic music playing in the background or fireworks exploding overhead. And they know without a doubt that they-the two of them and only the two of them-were meant to be together.
For many of us, religious faith fosters the one-perfect-person idea. Remember hearing the saying, "It was a match made in heaven," implying that God handpicked a particular man and woman to be joined together. If these two somehow goof and marry someone else, they have missed God's perfect will. :)
I admit that the soul mate supposition is appealing. We love the notion that out of the millions of people in the world, my sweetheart and I were drawn together in a way that was totally outside of our control. Infact do you know apart from this soulmate concept there are other characteristics including religious values,ambition and energy level that determine compatibility quotient.
As I write this I still believe that soulmates are made not born.We start with the ingredients for a highly compatible,successful relationship, and then work to develop closeness and intimacy.
Does this mean we reduce our standards when it comes to finding a partner?Absolutely not!!It simply means we "expand our field of vision"
What do you feel? Are you looking for that soulmate?Are you with that mate now? Do you sometimes feel maybe he/ she is not the one? What are your thoughts..
