I had a brain storm session with a colleague and somehow his criticism always bothers me.
He listens to everything that we have to say and later gives us his opinions in the form of a criticism capsule.He seems to have done Masters in this.(Whatever happened to the soft skills one should have in an MNC).Today when we called it a day and moved out of office, me and my friends were discussing about his approach and felt many of us have stifled our life by heeding some misguided critic who implied we were not good enough.
Madhu,my colleague was saying, though spineless people-pleasers try hard, no one totally avoids criticism. Being right doesn’t help. Neither does loving everyone, or being perfect.
So that raised the question, what urges people to criticise?
The need to prove they are right or the urge to prove others are wrong?
The need to show authority?
Simple plain habit cultivated over the years watching elders or others do it?
Or because they feel they know better?And if they do know better why criticise ?Why not demonstrate knowledge in a much positive way and win hearts/respect?
I think a person who thinks he can get away with criticising others achieves only 2 things:
Making others resent him and ignore him.
Whatever the reason be,it hurts and I will get back by going and hitting my punch bag!
Bye for now.If you can give me a better understanding please do so.I would love to understand this urge better to cope with it.
I think a person who thinks he can get away with criticising others achieves only 2 things:
Making others resent him and ignore him.
Simple plain habit cultivated over the years watching elders or others do it?
Or because they feel they know better?And if they do know better why criticise ?why not demonstrate knowledge in a much positive way and win hearts?
Whatever the reason be,it hurts and I will get back by going and hitting my punch bag!
Bye for now.If you can give me a better understanding please do so.I would love to understand this urge better to cope with it and participate in it.
