As wonderful as love can be, the opposite can also be true. There are so many instances and situations that can make love feel so wrong. Love is blind. Love makes the soul vulnerable to deep hurt, to deep emotional wounds. Love drives to madness. Love and hate go hand in hand. Love is selfish. Love does not make a right out of a wrong.
To begin with, the saying “love is blind,” has so much truth to it. When a person is in love, he, or she, tends to overlook so many negative things the loved one may have, things that other people may see, but the lover does not want to see, or believe, about the loved one. This can lead to much heartache and pain down the road. Very often, the blindness of love is living in denial of visible facts. A prime example of this is when someone falls in love and the person he or she is with, is inconsistent, not telling a story the same way one time from the next, being in so smitten, the lover pushes this fact away, in the long run, it will harm the relationship very badly though.
This brings us to another reason why love is not wonderful; the blindness that so often accompanies love makes a person emotionally vulnerable to intense pain. For example, a woman falls in love with a man who obviously has a problem with alcohol, but her feeling of love for him makes her think that his drinking is alright. In denying the fact that the alcohol is a real problem, she is making herself vulnerable to being deeply hurt; when she realises that his love for alcohol is greater than his love for her, she will be deeply wounded emotionally and mentally. When there are multiple addictions, this can prove to be even more hurtful to the person who loves so deeply.
We now come to another aspect that makes love not wonderful; love drives to madness. There are so many things people do in the name of love; not all of these things are bad, some are very good, but love can cause people to do insane things in the name of love. Some people go to the extreme of being criminal, in the name of love. For example, a guy is deeply in love with a girl and wants to show his love for her by giving her a beautiful diamond ring, which he cannot afford; blinded by love, he steals a ring. In a moment of madness, he becomes a criminal, and may very well have to pay for his madness.
So often we have heard that love and hate go hand in hand; one moment you feel love for a person, the next you absolutely hate that person. In such instances, love is anything but wonderful. The intensity of the hateful emotion can often be measured by the intensity of the love felt, preceding it. Hate often replaces love after having been deeply wronged by the loved one.
Love sure is not easy, and very often love is selfish. Some people who love intensely suffocate their loved ones by wanting that person all to themselves. They want to spend every minute with their beloved and do not even want to share them with friends; they would rather they cut everyone else out. That is nothing less than totally selfish love.
So, love is selfish. But can love make a right out of a wrong? No! No matter how wonderful love can be, it cannot make a right out of a wrong. A man cheats on his wife, still he tells her he loves her, and he very well may feel love for her, but that does not make his infidelity right or any less hurtful.
