Said I loved you...but I lied. Review on Five Songs To Get Over Heartbreak

'When someone leaves you, apart from missing them, apart from the fact that the whole little world you've created together collapses, and that everything you see or do reminds you of them, the worst is the thought that they tried you out and, in the end, the whole sum of parts which adds up to you got stamped REJECT by the one you love.  

• from Bridget Jones's Diary

Yes it hurts. When someone leaves you….when someone stops being a part of your little world…when someone moves on while you are still standing at the same place, wondering where you went wrong……

But again, look at the practical side of this whole mess. Was it really love or was it just a fluffed up illusion? Or was it just a terribly sad excuse for the ‘I wanna-I wanna-I wanna’ fixation. In the end it all boils down to the ‘self’ – and anything or anyone that does not serve the self becomes the opposite pole.

It does not matter who made the break, it does not matter who moved on first.  What matters now is that it happened and it’s over. OVER. Finally.

For all those who are actually going through heartbreak, my advice would be to get up and smell the coffee. Everything begins and ends at exactly the right place and time. If  something has ended then there are two ways to look at it

• Be happy that it happened at all.Think of the good moments and smile. Wish the other person all the best in life(Yes I know, easier said than done).

Or.

• Be happy that it ended.Concentrate on all the bad moments you had while you were going around with that person and shudder. Thank your luck that it’s all over.  Good riddance!

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Main chaahata hi yehi tha ki wo bewafa nikle

Use samajhne ka koi to silsila nikle(Jagjit Singh, Echoes)

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Sometimes it is almost a relief to end a relationship that perplexes you, confounds you, confuses you and generally makes you question your own identity. How wonderful it is to simply let go of all the chains that bind you and fly free – away from all the doubts, questions and anxieties. So it may not be surprising that if you are caught in a web of such a relationship, you may be  hoping subconsciously for it to end, even when you appear very happy or very ‘together’ superficially. Give yourself a reality check – did you need all that baggage that came along with love?

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Aaj phir jeene ki tamanna hai

Aaj phir marne ka iraada hai(Lata Mangeshkar; Guide)

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Was a happier song ever created? I doubt it. This is not just a song – it’s a free breeze that flies through the trees, a red balloon that ascends in the blue sky, a white, soft cloud that floats merrily – in gay abandon. It’s great to be free! It’s wonderful to finally live the way you want to! There is a big, wide world opening its arms out for you. So why would you sit alone in the darkness, reminiscing about the past?

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Aasman ke paar shaayad aur ki aasman hoga

Badlon ke parbaton pe koi baarish ka makaan hoga(Shankar Mahadevan; Rockford)

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I am sure this song was not created for getting over heartbreak at all. However, the sentiments expressed are so liberating. This song is about enthusiasm to move on, to explore new worlds – to discover new skies, to undertake new flights… It’s a joyful celebration of life and the constant change that is so essential for inner growth.

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Aur Nahin bas aur nahin

Gham ke pyaale aur nahin(Mahendra Kapoor; Roti Kapda aur Makaan)

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This mood of this song is dark and somber. ‘Aur nahin’ simply means ‘No more’. Enough of heart break. Enough of pain. Enough of disillusionment. Frankly, how much do we respect ourselves? Do we respect ourselves enough to recognize emotional abuse when we see it? And once we recognize it, do we have the strength to get up and say ‘No more of this. I am out of here.’ Sadly, most of us just cling to abusive relationships and inconsiderate people just because we feel that we may not get anything better.

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Bhool ja, jo hua use bhool ja

Hai kasam tujhe, muskura  (Shaan; Tanha Dil)

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I guess this song is a song to end all songs on heartbreak. Not one of my favourites – but there is something so energizing about it. The beat is terrific, Shaan’s voice is almost passionate as he sings ‘Bhool ja, Bhool ja’ almost like a mantra for a suffering soul that is not able to let go of a hurting, unforgiving past. The best thing about this song is that the message that comes across loud and clear is: You are worthy. Of love. Of happiness. You do NOT deserve this pain. Now that’s positive energy!

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