hiiii folks
this diary post of mine is on one of our gr8est personality disorder...
which if not all but many of us faces in our daily life...
for example:-
-you r not interested in investment in stocks but ur friend had appealed u to invest ur hard earned money in shares or
-your friend had demanded ur car n u had to meet an important client who is about 30 kms away
-ur friend had assigned u some of his work to u..which u r not capable of accomplishing but u had given ur consent by thinking that u ll see wen it comes :)
etc....
such r sum examples.....
n
in maximum cases most of us unwillingly had given their consent
just as we dd not want to lose our gud friendship wid our those friends...
so just to maintain our bonhomie wid our those near dear ones we used to undertook some of tasks which r beyond our achievement level...
so wat r the reason which led to our acceptance to those things...
i think first of all its our past memories n attachment wid our close friends which makes us so attached wid them that we can't say no wenever our friends need our help..
to a gr8 extent its gr8 to help our friends n we sud b proud of helping our friends..
my only concern z that how to say no...wen the assigned task is beyond our achievement....
ie u dd not had enough funds 2 invest in stocks....
in this case if we can take our friend into confidence that we r not in situation 2 invest @ this time...as our friend n we had a long past record of understanding most chances is that he ll understood our difficulty...
this way we ll be relieve from our this personality disorder..
but it took a lot of our inner faith on ourself that some time saying no is not a bad thing @ all...
for example u had said no to ur friend wen he had assigned u the task...so in this case after ur refusal he ll assign his task to someone other than u ..
but suppose u had hesitated to say NO to him then...n @ the time of accomplishment u find that u r not capable of doing the assigned task... :(
then wat will be ur reaction???????
dd not u think ur relation ll b @ more stake :(
....
so saying NO wid explanation is a gr8 think...n we sud create our inner confidence to remove our this gr8 personality disorder..
my god mine this DP is so long
@ the end I hope u ll like my this DP
feel free 2 share ur experience
-regards
ravi
