Update on Diary Post - Looking at the foolish hate filled comments i'm getting,........ let me just put up another disclaimer...... This is an exercise........ to see the other side of the coin........ Nothing more than that. I dont know the couple........ I dont know the exact details........ I'm not saying the guy is correct or that the girl is correct.......... I'm just trying to show you the other side of the coin!!!! The side that is not so apparent under the layers or dust, mistrust and a biased frame of mind......... That is the side I want you to see........ just for the sake of argument........ but still a very important consideration in my humble opinion!!!!
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Please refer to monoo's post on this topic with the same title as the premise for this diary post. His post is the Diary Post of the Day today (3rd-April-09). For everybody who has read that post, i'd just like to say that...... although i'm terribly sorry for what the girl had to go through, i'm sick of the guys always landing up with the brickbats. I know I will get a lot of the same brickbats for the views being expressed by me today, but its just something I have to say. They're purely my opinions based on the facts and information made available to me from monoo's post. I'd have to add a disclaimer that in view of the same facts and information made available to me, and without having any additional knowledge about the matter, in the face of the above disclaimer, Yes......i stand by and support the guy.
I'd like to hear your thoughts on what I feel. Below are the comments I had left on monoo's diary post. I copy-pasted them here. Applause, brickbats, garlands, knives - Everything is welcome. Do drop in your views.
hmmm....... I SUPPORT THE GUY
By: G-raptor | Apr 03, 2009 10:45 AM
since 2 years!!!!! ........ For cryin out loud, when a guy gets married, he bona fide by way of marriage gets his ’’conjugal rights’’ that is, the right to have sex with his wife. ’’Not feeling like it’’ is a sufficient excuse for a month or maybe a couple of months, but you cant expect the guy to go around without sex all the time.
Waiting for consent is okay, but if that consent doesnt come at all, then the guy does have a right to get frustrated.
Maybe he took the intitiative and forced (IMPORTANT - forced her = by cajoling her, and not putting a gun to her head) her to have sex, because he thought she was having inhibitions about the act or was shy or not comfortable or whatever. Maybe he didnt take "NO" for an answer because he thought that "this just cant go on" and "its about time she realizes that she’s MARRIED!!! to me". And 2 years is a long time...... That girl would still have been sitting there depriving her husband of his conjugal rights, if he had not taken the initiative. I’m not saying the guy is right and the girl is wrong, but none of them are right and none of them are wrong.
I understand the girl’s point of view, and I also understand the guy’s point of view......... If it was 2 months instead of 2 years, definitely the guy would be wrong. But not consenting to have sex even once in 2 years........ yaar..... c’mon give the poor guy a break.......
By: G-raptor | Apr 03, 2009 11:01 AM
I just remembered, that by depriving the conjugal rights of either party between whom the bond of marriage subsists, the party who has been deprived of these rights has the right to ask for dissolution of marriage......
now if you ask, why didnt the guy ask for dissolution of marriage instead of doing this act. I ask you, would you do it. Would you go to the courts, bring out your secrets of ’’not getting enough sex’’ infront of the world to see, so that you are made a laughing stock in front of all the people who had so far respected you.
I wouldnt want to make a fool of myself, destroy my reputation as well as my family’s reputation and more importantly wash my dirty laundry in public and give reasons such as ’’not getting sex (deprived of my conjugal rights)’’ in a court of law which can get reported in the newspapers too, No sir!!! I wouldnt want that and I wouldnt do that!!! I wouldnt end my marriage and make a fool of myself in front of everybody!!!
And lastly I ask you, if it was you in his place......... (too all the guys I ask, and maybe some females too)...... if you were the one married for 2 years, and your partner was not consenting to have sex, what would you do........ would you just stand by waiting for consent till you're past your prime or would you act now by cajoling him and forcing him to do it. By force I mean the Cajoling type of force and not the gun-on-your-head type of force.!!!!
I rest my case!!!!!
