''In my shyness . . .
At times I retreat to my ''shell,''
Clinging to the security of being alone.
In my shyness . . .
I may attempt to merge with my surroundings--
To be ignored, unnoticed, a silent voice rarely heard. ''
-- excerpt from ''IN MY SHYNESS'' by Jo A. Witt
Have U ever felt so???
Do not tell me u have not!!
No??
Not even a tinge of it???
At least in an alienated atmosphere??
Have you ever felt shy and stopped doing something because you were having thoughts about what others would think--like eating less at an office part??
Do you keep procrastinating things???
Do u feel inferior in anyway to 'anybody'-- physically, potentially, mentally??
Are u sensitive to unrequited relationships and actions??
Are u too soft to say 'no'??
Do U live in the past(read on to find out)??
If the answers to these are ''no'', please do not waste ur time reading further. If the answer to any of these is 'yes', go on-this is for u!
I keep going on thru one or the other of these phases now and then. I suffered from the inferiority complex of being fat for 4 years (read my review on 'lose weight lazying away-healthy weight loss if u want to know more). I was living and revelling in the past then, neglecting my present and future.
I knew I had the goods to get to be the first among equals there. I knew I had the stuff in me. But, because of my fat I was hesitant to come out into the open. I wasn’t taking advantage of the numerous opportunities being offered to me. I wasn’t doing justice to my potential and to the hopes my parents had on me.
Neither did I attend my classes nor did I participate in the extra-curricular activities I loved dearly. Three years passed thus. I was waiting to get out of Pilani so that I could start afresh. U see, I had tried out all kinds of diets and exercises (secretly as I did not want anybody to ridicule me). Nothing worked out. I just got vexed and started eating more ( I wanted to atleast enjoy that!).
I happened to come across this book then-my sister presented it to me. It changed all my attitude. I stopped procrastinating things.I continued thinking of the past,but, did not live in it. I started doing various things to overcome my fat. U see, I was thinking of the past still, but, started living in the present and acting for the future. This helped me a lot and changed me as a person- both physically and mentally.
Now I do not procrastinate things. I do not get hurt in case on unrequited love in any of my relationships. I do not let others decide what I am or what and how I should be doing (If U can get what I'm trying to say).I do not become weakened if I do not get any praise for my actions from any body. And I have changed in many other ways I would otherwise have not thought possible. This gives me a new confidence to ''Just do it!'' and ''Go get it!''- not the faintest bit of hesitation.
I am citing my example her not to boast, but to let U all know what wonders this book can do if read 'properly'. Also, many might identify themselves with me. This review would not have the same effect if I state examples of real survivors from the net and books.
This book is by a top notch psychiatrist analysing the various aspects of why and how a person can feel inferior and what a persons erroneous zones might be. It gives a step by step advice for escaping the traps of life and taking control.
I do not want to reveal much of the book.I have already stated what the books deals with and how it can help one. I am not going to key in any excerpts or examples from the book, though I desperately want to, as I want u to go thru the experience urselves.
It might sound a little absurd that a book can do much. But, my own example tells it all. I will also give u the recipe as to why this book can really achieve these. Dr.Wayne Dyer, being a psychiatrist, goes according to the human nature-- we easily get attracted to and implement rebellious stuff. If things are told in the normal realistic soft way, they might or might not have effect on us. but, a out of the world way surely will. Dr.Dyer adopts the same way. He gets to rebellious. He narrates as if he is counselling a suicidal patient. He goes to every extreme to get the point into our heads. And so it works!!
And one has to be careful of the same trait of the book. One can easily go astray (I have already mentioned that the author narrates as if he is counselling a suicidal patient who needs a heavy dose). We donot need such heavy a dose. So, please be careful.
Nothing more about the book. I desperately want to cite some excerpts from the book, but that is not the mark of a good writer (and I sometimes fancy myself to be one??). I have given my experience. Get conclusions from it and experience the amazing transformation urselves.
U won't believe this-- the author has got some 150 odd titles under his name!!! Mostly spiritual stuff (I assure you that this book has not got even an ounce of it. This one, infact, is very ungodly like-so, be careful).
Some of his other works are-
''Wisdom of Ages:A Modern Master Brings Eternal Truths Into Everyday Life.''
''Your sacrificed self''-- tells you how not to abnegate and
''Real Magic.''
I hope that I have driven home my points well and clearly.
Hook into it!!It's quite a catch!!!
