Intercast Marriages = Youth + parents + (Society?). Review on Young Times

Marriage to me means spending lakhs of rupees on decoration, food, band, jewellery, clothes, new furniture, every one in home is busy like they have to do the whole work, only people free are bride and groom or someone also agrees its an institution where you(groom) looses your bachelors degree and bride gains her masters….

But on serious node marriage to me means that you have found another good reason to make your life much-much better than the existing one, your spouse will help you understanding much better than yourself and your spouse will be with you in times when everyone thinks you are wrong and your spouse have faith that you are right, it’s a feeling which can not be explained but you want to have a family with your spouse and loads of babies too and there should no filtration depending upon the looks or monetary basis or religion basis( but can not write about the GENDER now a day)

But in India most of the parents and most of the people who are religion heads like pundits, Mawlawi/Maulvi  etc. will not agree with above point, they only know when their children or others children of their religion, reaches the age of 21(for female) and 24(for males), they marry them, not having any considering the feeling of their children and will marry in their own cast or religion only, if they(children) do oppose, either they(children) will be thrown out of the religion or they have to under go something like of Priyanka and Mohammad Umer of BHOPAL. But I should say in recent time many parents have changed their thinking but still some are there to support above point(please some one should educate them and tell them there much more serious issues than these inter caste marriages).

One very important question? Should the parent be the only one who will decide when their children should marry or it should be the whole and sole decision of the children or Both(parents and children).According to me, our parents have seen the world more than us but we are also matured enough to take decisions about what is right or not right for us. Sometimes it happens that the out come of our decision is not right but that is how we learn. Someone where I read “there are no mistakes there are only experiences and we learn from that experience if we don’t learn then those experience are mistakes”.

Does that means we(children) should only take this once in lifetime, crucial decision of marriage? Depends upon people prospective. But what I feel is it should be mutual. There may be times in someone life where our parent do not agree and we are forced to go against them but I know what will be going into your mind, what will happen if I go against my parents. It’s a very crucial rather very sensitive decision. How can we go against the parent who have given us birth, raised us for 20-25 years? Should we go against them? Who have spends a lot of money on your studies, your tuitions, for buying our favourite toy, bike or car and that emotional attachment…what I feel is YES we may if you feel the what we are doing is right but first try to explain what is going through our mind, why we have taken this step(to marry) and mind it only to parent and not to society.

Think of case when couple marries against the consensus of their parent and socity and it turns out to bad experience(not mistake), every one(including parents) goes against the couple but when taking the same scenario when the couple is well settled say in both are earning very and settled in Colaba(posh area in Mumbai)  or UsofA, then not even parent but society also favours their decision.

I don’t think, if your parents and we understand each other, this type of situation will ever occur. These situations will only occur where they(parent) don’t trust the choice of their own children or do not have faith in their children decision(vice-verse) or they(parents) could not digest that their child has gone against their decision.

Take the case of Priyanka and Umesh(Mohammad Umer) of Bhopal or Khushi and Kadir of Surat … many more are there in list. All flew from their hometown, took shelter in some other state where they(children) can hide from parents(parents who have given birth why they need to hide from them).

In the case of Priyanka and Umesh(Mohammad Umer) of Bhopal, opposing the marriage one person said, “children have no right to go against their parent, they(children) should respect them(parent) as they have spent money right from their birth”.

Some one please tell these kind of people that if we give back the money, can we do what we want … I know this is not possible and no one will do that?  And one of my teachers said in school days “You can not force any one to respect others, it should always come from with in ”. in the same manner you can not force any one to accept any religion, you can only tell the qualities of relion and it’s the choice of the individual to follow t or not.

What I feel is, all this is to gather attention which will benefit the party or individual politically, nothing will happen …… after couple year no one will heard about the Kadir or Umesh(Mohammad Umer) transforming the religion.

The religious gurus can throw out Kadir or Umer from the religion, but can they take out the true Muslim from them. They won’t stop praying 5 times a day. I bet they will not.

Where were these Bajrang Dal, Hindu Kanya Raksha Samity, Muslim religious Gurus, when Sharukh Khan(muslim) got married to Gauri(Hindu) or when Hritik Roshan(hindu) married to Suzanne Khan(muslim). No one came in front for the protest. You all might be know why…

Marriage is a very emotional, mental, physical and personnel feeling that one shares with their spouse and no one and I say no one has any right to interfere, be they be of any caste or religion and it’s a request to the people of INDIA please have faith in your child’s choice and for children, you should have faith in your parents that they are thinking for your betterment.