The bottle of death. Review on Knowing More About Diseases / Illness

Hopefully this will be in the right category. My fiance has a drinking problem. I used to have a drinking problem over 20 years ago but have conquered that and based on what I went through I thought I knew enough to help him.

Some people think if you are hooked on booze you can just stop and it isn't that easy. Living with some one that is, is very hard and you need to be as informed as possible in order to help the person.

I have placed this under severe illness as it is just that and a disease that can kill you if not gotten under control.

I met him on yahoo. He lived some 2 thousand miles away and we began talking and then started talking on the phone and made arrangements for him to travel to meet me which was almost a year ago.

He had mentioned to me ahead of time that he liked to have a couple of beers now and then and I said that was fine.

The day he arrived I went to meet him and on the way to my house he wanted to stop and pick up some beer. He purchased a case. It only took a couple of days to see he had a big problem.

First thing is a person with this disease will deny having it and tell you they have it under control when you can plainly see that they don't. They will lie about many things and if they have no money to buy it they will conive to get money or even steal it if need be.

To further complicate he has a heart condition, high blood pressure and depression and is on a lot of meds. He has been to detox twice now since being here and again last week I caught him drinking.

You have to take their meds and give them to them when due otherwise being drunk they can easily over dose which has happened once so far.

You must lock up all your money and make sure they never go anywhere alone.

You have to inform anyone that they go out with about the situation so that they are aware.

You can have them seek counseling which he does but still it continues.I woke up this morning to find one of his ciggerettes that had been lit laying on the table instead of in the ash tray, if it had rolled on the floor the carpet would have caught fire so you also need all smoke detectors working and an escape route planned if they smoke too or demand they go outside.

The only other things you can do is show them you still love them and try to talk a lot to find out what set off the drinking again.

Some times you have to make a choice when all else fails. One choice would be to have them arrested so they would be in jail awhile and have longer to dry out or in my case give him a choice to stop or go back home and he would choose to stay but he would still sneak it. The other choice is deciding if you can spend the rest of your life dealing with the situation.