Advice to marrying couples this season . Review on Jeevansathi

I got my son registered in this website so long but since marriages are destiny's decision, I got a good offer for my son on refereal basis. My coullegues were eager so one of my senior coullegue advised me to share my views and 28 years long married life experience with the newly weds couple and would be bride and grooms in this winter marriage season.

My reaction was that when I got married, so many changes had occured regarding values, the attitudes and personal thinking of the Bride and Groom, even then my suggestions or advice may be helpful to a greater extent, I am sure about it. I wanted to share my experience thru this review

Despite ,some of the basic human nature at the marriage age are same for the centuries and expectations are also the same.Like every one girl or boy wants to see appreciation feelings in the eyes of her better half.

Be it arranged marriage or love marriage or mix of it, which is most common now a days. I mean most girls and boys used to chat on cell and pass their time in each other's company. So pre-marriage period is when they think that this is the most butiful and attractive time girls & boys think. Similary girls wants to see how much he loves her and how much financially and socially secured she is with him and to what level of recognition and love she will get in her in - laws home. These are presumptions on both side, but due to physical attraction. both ignores this.I think both should plan their life before marriage and particularly when their honeymoon period is over.

If marriage is settled and rituals are performed without any hassels, this is the time when and should they should enjoy with all boost up energy. This is the time when they expect not onlylove and love and the expression of love and appreciation in words,vocal and written.Normally wife expects that her husband to be more extrovert in expressing his feeling of love, love and love only.

For example, if husaband says that your eyes are so beautiful and this lip colour best suits on your lips and specially when you smile, my heartbeats jumps high. Such a romantic expressions wife always keeps in her memory . Same way wife should say that this scent makes her more romantic and sexy in his company or such colour Suit gives him best impression on others or this tie best suits on him. Advice should be up to that level and this is not be forced.There is no role force in married life.

Apart from this I want to lay emphasis on the sexual relations which are more important.Their extreme satisfaction and mutual sharing of each other in bed room, leads to a happy life. These are the memories forever in the mind of couple .Some times both persons being just very new to physical interaction, fails to succeed If any one of the couple,fails to understand that this happens with many persons, particularly husband who want to satisfy but in haste, fails to do so. In that case they should wait and see and other better half should cooperate and in 99% cases, husband gets success in making best contact which continues for the whole life.

When both are working, after honeymoon period, they are naturally engaged with their official affairs and this is the time that husband should trust her wife, if she is coming late.She should be treated normally. May be her office or other male friends may come and greet her on her marriage.This is the normal feature but if husband feels that any particular male friend is more interested, he should react in nice manner and advice her wife accordingly. Same is the case with wife too and she should, instead of jealous, should take it as usual and act accordingly.

I have seen many a times love marriages are not successful because before marriage both boy and girl present themselves as god made Best Person and hide so many demerits of their own.Many a times love starts when they first meed and ends early after marriage.Where as in case of arrange marriage, love starts after marriage and continues after lot of adjustments and in these cases, proper advice of other family members is very useful.

I hope that they should try to continue to live happily as long as they can, I mean a mixture of like dislike love and criticism of each other.If criticising each other for the betterment is done, is o.k. but this criticism should not be in the presence of family members,friends, relations and in public places.

One more thing, this is not important how much caring and love you have given to your betterhalf in good days.Important is that how much support, caring and affection you have given when he or she was in physical trouble, mean at the time of pregnency pre or post natal or when she was ill and expected you to support her medically and physically.

Couple should not perform like acting in film but should behave as usual as they are,because acting do not continue so long and at one time, they are exposed.