Apr 30, 2001 10:34 PM
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Any one acquainted with the disease Diabetes knows there is'stress related' worry. The diabetic, in controll, moves through a day with much less concern. But, when diabetics go out of control, stress builds for him/her and the people living with them. My husband is a diabetic. I am the silent partner. I can not do anything'physical' to put him back in control and I am forced to watch and wait. Concern turns to stress as you wait.for that control.
MOODS:
Being a diabetic for over 20 years, Sam is a super loving person who bends to mood swings. As he fights to get that insulin'just right' and keep the happy circle of eating/shots/eating going, tension builds. It is NOT his fault and it is not my fault. When'control' happens, the sun shines on cloudy days. When he is'out' black clouds cross my sunshine. He is quiet in these moods and he is'wacky'. I wait and the stress builds. I love him.and I still have to wait.
Stressful concerns:
Diabetics who'grow' with this disease for years often suffer complications. My hubby suffers from degenerate arthritis which is very painful and this pain increases his blood pressure and causes stress on his heart. And it causes a different kind of stress for me.'helpless stress'. He may guess, but does not know my stress. I am the silent partner. I watch his diet, check his medicines and pray. When the doctor discovered blood in his kidneys, I saw his stress and kept mine silent. I didn't want to add to his. Silent!
What do you do:
As I stated above, when my hubby is in control, and the sun shines.I am walking around singing. But, when his moods change and his stress is present, I must keep'up' for the both of us. A great stress buster is love. Another is patience. I keep things quiet around the home and take the telephone calls. I do the bills and check the oil. Until he is'back'. I am busy and that busts my stress. Love makes it all a piece of cake.
When the sun shines:
Today he is off to fish. Got his cooler loaded with foods. Pressure is down and glucose is in check. I am LOUD. My joy and contentment is verbal. I run around singing and rip off to do errands. I am physical with release.and no longer silent. He is'back' in control.
The Bottom Line:
Did you ever see the best man in the world? Not if you haven't seen my hubby. He is very smart and diplomatic. He is very thoughtful of me. He wants to do EVERYTHING for me. With correct eating, exercising, and insulin.he will be in controll for days/weeks. We, in our own little world, will enjoy life and not worry about things. We raised our three sons, enjoy grandchildren and enjoy simple things in life. When he falls again{glucose rises} I will enjoy a good book and take a nice drive. I will check his diet, meds and him. And I will worry silently.til death do us part. And just maybe, his stress and struggle will be less.:o)
