I have been through depression for quiet a long time. Its the worst thing that can happen to man. Its worse than cancer.
Cancer too, after a span of time, kills you. But depression kills everyday. So if you are a depressed soul reading this
article, I suggest reading on. Life cant go on with this.
To eliminate any thing, we need to destroy the cause. So, what could be the possible depressing facts in my opinion are
listed below:
1. SORROW OR SELF-PITY- Sorrow and happiness are but different faces of the same thing. Sorrow is intrinsic to all human lives. Sorrow weaves the very fabric of our existence. It is an ineradicable existensial dichotomy. Ineradicable= wat you cannot uproot.Sorrow is as important in our lives as happiness. Such is incongruity of man that even the most joyous moments are tinged with sorrow.
Quoting from'the skylark' by P.B. Shelley, 'Our sweetest songs are those that tell of saddest thought'. The most charming songs of man are those that tell of tragedy of life. Thus to man, pleasure that lies in pain is better than the pleasure of pleasure itself - THIS IS LIFE.
2. LOSS - Loss of material or emotional feelings or rather reciprocation of emotional feelings make many people sad and hence DEPRESSED. Consult the Bhagvad Geeta, a sacred book of Hindus(one of the oldest religions in the world). It says that you came with nothing(known to all) and you would go with nothing(known too). But, then again one can say'WHAT IS THE MEANING OF LIFE WITHOUT DESIRE'. Of course you have to have desires; will to do something in life. But when one looses a thing, its better to remind yourself that you did not come with it and neither can you get out with it. And, as soon as you get it, you should make yourself up for a point of time when you will loose it. That does not mean that you should be pesimistic and just treat it as nothing. You do what you feel like - enjoy it as much as possible coz it wont be there with you for long.
Much like materials, emotional feelings get lost too. Unrequited love has made DEVDAS and couple of other saddists. May be Devdas has created a legend. But you wont become a hero with that. The world is not ready for too many sadistic people - get this. Devdas was nothing but a sufferer of OCD(Obsessive Compulsion Disorder).
While travelling on a highway, if you miss a resturant when you are feelin hungry, dont you go lookin for the resturant ahead rather than turning back for the missed one?
'LIFE IS NO DRIVE ON THE HIGHWAY' - quoted the defense lawyer inside me.'It is much so when it comes to lessons' - I say.
3. FAILURE - Perhaps this should have been the first point. First, you need to justify who is to be blamed for the
failure. If you have spend quiet a lot of time on trying to do something and have ended up with failure, TRY AGAIN is the
keyword to go for. But, then again, I would also say that there may be some problem with the way you are trying to do it.
This is in most times a very important issue. I guess the best way is to sit down with a paper and pen and rationalize everything in writing. You will see what is wrong. Focus on that and success would be on your door!
And, if you tend to end life(as I did try to), I got something to say:
I wont say its cowardly. I would say its not wise. First, life is the oppurtunity(refer to the river part below). You can prove yourself only when you are alive. If you have respect for your self you would fight. If you want to bend the rules - bend it. You answer to yourself what is right. Once you see, go ahead.
4. UNCHANGEABLE CIRCUMSTANCES - That is, when things are not happening the way you want them to. There are countless
social issues - starting from'DISCRIMINATION TO WOMEN' to'BAD IN-LAWS'. The best way to strike hear is'BE EVIL'. These are not things that we can change. Thus we should know how to deal with them. First, BE TACTFUL. Just slamming on the face of a'bad man', 'YOU ARE BAD' is no tact at all. Be nice to him. He may be of use to you someday. At most times he wont and so you dont care - but what if he can influence those who can help you? These are connected issues. So, best is to handle them tactfully. Go to the bathroom or some place where you have solitude and then chalk out plans. Though most can be categorized as'UNCHANGEABLE', for people here are some short things you can do:
a. Weak points - People have weakness about there kids and love to hear them being praise. Some like it about their ownselves.
b. Attract - Know what his interests are and be a bit of help. These let you develop a soft corner or help to soften the hard corner the person may have.
A PRAYER: This prayer is supposed to give you power.
Find some silence and say this prayer three times.
'Dear God, Give me the power to change the things I can,
And the power to accept the things I cant change.'
A TEMPORARY SOLUTION MAY BE'RUN-AWAY'. BUT ITS TEMPORARY. DONT BE AN ESCAPIST. A LAW OF HUMAN LUCK(OR WATEVER U CALL IT) .WAT U RUN FOR IS WAT U HAVE 2 STRIVE FOR MORE.WEN U DONT PAY ATTENTION TO IT, IT COMES TO YOU(GIRLS, MONEY, LOST THINGS.THE LAW APPLIES TO ALMOST ALL HUMAN ASSOCIATIONS)
*As a proof that I did learn a bit of geography, life is like a river. It gets its own tributaries and then also gives out its distributaries. The river can hardly decide how they should go. Many geographical conditions and also(to some degree at least) human behaviour as a whole are responsible for its course. When floods occur, it may kill many people. Contradicting to the same fact, it also supplies water to farms situated on its banks when these floods occur.
It has such a great influence in our lives that often we refer to it as'Mata' meaning mother. But, all this and not anything that the river chooses to do - nature plays its games!. Our life is very similar to it. We can form waterfalls and also
floods. Waterfalls, only if the river has some height from which it can fall. Floods only if it has more water.
Thus, we derive thats its oppurtunity and merely necessity that decides our life.*
