Jun 20, 2007 09:09 PM
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Are you a person who is very frequently confronted with heaps of advices? That means you are either treading the incorrect path or you are going through a rough patch in your life. As we all have heard, life is not a bed of roses, and it is the way we react when a thorn hurts us, which determines the real inner strength.
There are numerous workshops / personality development programmes and doctors dealing exclusively with depression or stress or such mind related problems.The need for them has risen to that level. When the world is progressing on the one hand, technologically and economically, there are things happening in day to day lives for one and all, which holds us back.(whether briefly or permanently is sure in our hands).
SELF-PITY: This is one major culprit and a very dangerous feeling which eventually leads to depressed outlook. Yearning for people turning towards you during hard times is natural. But, if you get irritated if someone discounts your problem even a bit, then that is called self-pity and that usually has appalling effects. Now, why would someone discount your problem? Only to make you feel that there are people faced with worse situations than you are now, with the thought of making you feel better.
IS GOD BEING UNKIND? God can never be unkind.But we do get that thought when horror strikes. When something miserable happens to you, and when you have someone beside you saying, 'everything happens for good', you may wonder, how can something this bad, pave way to something good.Here is where you have to condition your mind.Take it this way.maybe God has saved me from something worse, or maybe God wants me to think and pray more.
ARE U DESERTED? Do not withdraw yourself from social activities. Remember that no one can hurt you unless you permit them to do so. This is easier said than done. But maintaining self-esteem is one thing which would make one keep going. Go out with friends whenever possible.
THINK OF ALL GOOD THINGS HAPPENEND IN LIFE: Especially the ones that others have not enjoyed or others have not been blessed with. There is light at the end of the tunnel and life is not an all sorrow game. Do not cling on to the things or to the people who make you feel little, until you have fought and won your problems/worries.
PROBLEM SHARED = PROBLEM HALVED: Don't think you are burdening or boring your friend with your worries/depression. They would be more than welcome to lend a ear to your worries. There is nothing to feel shy among friends. Just cry out your worries and don't keep it to yourself. This is easier for women to do.
IS OTHERS' PROGRESS BOTHERING YOU: When you are faced with depression, you may think the world has come to an end for you. But all others out there would be progressing in their lives. You may get the feeling, why has life come to a standstill only for me?.well.**LIFE would not have come to a standstill, YOU would have applied speed brakers to it.
Whatever happened can never be changed. Whatever is destined to happen also may not change, but you do not know what is instored for you.Thinking/developing negative thoughts would only hamper your growth.
LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST: You may worry what you will do after you retirement(for eg.) For all you know you may not live after that.So what is the use in taking all the tension to your mind and spoiling the PRESENT MOMENT OF YOU LIFE. Just do the things which would make you feel happy, or atleast which won't make you feel bad. You should certainly not have an idle mind, thereby warmly welcoming the devil.
Just stay happy as there are so many people wanting to see your happy face and your smiling eyes!
