Jun 04, 2005 07:15 AM
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(Updated Jun 04, 2005 07:15 AM)
Here are 10 golden tips to win over that girl of your dream. These tips will however be able to help only serious lover and is not meant to be a cook book style recipe for succeding in a strange phenomenon called Love.
10. Personality and Character: The first impression that you make on a girl stays for very long if not forever. You donot need to be outright handsome Tom Cruise Kinds but you should be presentable, not all of us are born with that Tall, Dark, Handsome looks but we can always work toward making ourselves more presentable. Your walk and body posture is often the first thing that people notice after your face. You need not be muscular or hunk but try to be fit and atheletic, workout to take that extra flab off your waist. Girls like guys with strong personality and a confident stride, a degree of aloofness is always attractive, but take care not to look arrogant.
The next thing she wants to know before a girl will even become to close to you is your character. No matter how sweet you appear in front of her, word always travel and will eventually reach her especially if she is interested. Your habits may have strayed when you were young, but try not to flaunt it. If you show that you understand the evils of those and are willing to give up, most people will discount it if they find other things compatible. Never ever flaunt your bad habbits, it may give you a kick and an ego boost at that particular moment but it screws up your chances in the long run.
9. Courage and conviction: Proposing someone you really love takes courage. It is very different if you want a casual relationship, but if you really like someone so much that a refusal will affect you, taking the courage to ask her is a challenge. But It comes because the feeling is unsurmountable, but remember more often than not answer would be NO. Here use your abilites to turn the opportunity into one in which you can remain in touch atleast as a friend!
8. Become her Friend: It is the first major obstacle if you have no common ground, but it is probably one of the most important. You MUST find a way to ensure a common ground is found. It could be her morning Jog, her Tution Class, her swimming class, her freinds freind or whatever, I m sure you will find it. The friendship has to be cultivated patiently, donot RUSH. I repeat donot RUSH. Take time and be patient.
7. Be her Best Friend: Show that you Care for her, It may be simple things, something which she doesnot expect: like may be going to her exam center and giving a best of luck Choclate(Trust me she wont refuse it before her Exam), sending her the tickets of the movie she really wanted to see with her other friends. Give her some presents, nothing expensive but something really thoughtful. NEVER FORGET HER BIRTHDAY!
6. Manipulate: Not in wrong sense, but a slightly wrong sense, I guess u understand what I mean'everything is fair in war and love'. You may have to use certain tricks to ensure you have some time alone, that there are instances where she needs your help, find her weak points and donot exploit them, but subtly use them to your advantages.
5. Be Jealous: but not too much, girls love the feeling that someone is being possesive about them, it makes them feel worth and proud. So show that jealousy when she speaks to some other guy, or helps a colleague. But a word of caution: donot be overly jealous or angry and make nasty comments, it will spoil all you step 10 to 6 efforts.
4. Make her Jealous: Donot do the mistake of trying this step before the others are accomplished. Give a dash of insecurity to that relationship, appreciate some beautiful girls she knows. AlWAYS make sure you have a movie actress who is your first Love, and donot forget to build bridges about her beauty, attitude and everything in front of her. She will be jealous but can't even complaint, it works!
3. Passion: Be passionate about your relationship, remember the words I love you! Give her those stolen kisses, play with her hair and yes HOLD HER HAND. The most intimate act in a relationship which is just beggining is holding the hand. If a girl gives you her hand and while you hold it she squeezes it, she is YOURS. I know it defies all the psychology of relationship . but it is true. girls love to be held, it gives them that security and comfort that is so very essential for them in a relationship.
2. Perseverance: The most difficult part, but remember patience always pays off. Most guys feel that they are so close to a girl that they are like soul mates. Dont assume that, there may be a lot of work still to be done and maintaining a constant relationship is often the key when the girl is not sure wether she really wants you or not.
1. Golden Rule: It is better to have loved and lost rather than have never loved. Yo may win or you may lose, If you win you win, if you lose however you learn to win and that is important. If god gives what you want he is increasing your faith, If he delays he is increasing your patience and if he denies he has something better for you. Best of luck in your Pursuit!
