~** Cupid in the Cubicle **~. Review on General Tips on Conducting Meetings

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Hi frens, my review is on “Workplace Romance”, again im sorry to say that this is not the appropriate category for my review, but I requested MS to add new category “General thoughts on Workplace Culture”, and again they denied as usual.

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“Workplace romance is like an hour glass, as the heart goes filling up, brain goes empty”

Long working hours in the office, mutual deadlines, frequent coffee breaks and shared pressure, little time to socialize with anyone but your colleagues: in short “A recipe for workplace lust”

A budding romance with a co-worker can really spice up the life at work place but it puts a question mark. Will a corporate love really work & lead somewhere or will it turn out to be a fling or disaster?

Truthfully the answer lies within your own opinions, intentions & motivation.

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“The Dating place moves to workplace”

So now lets evaluate how this can be detrimental to your career.

Hostile work Environment

1.  Colleagues may become jealous and attempt to sabotage your work.

2.  Your productivity and the productivity of those around you may suffer.

3·  You could become the subject of office gossip.

4·  An annoyed lover can negatively manipulate the kind of work, assignments, raise, and opportunity you be given.

5·  It could create an awkward situation when the romance ends and two of you still have to work together.

Favoritism

Favoritism is the dominant issue. If you are involved much with your boss, no matter how much hard working you are, some of your colleagues will always be conversed, you get raise or promotion as a reward for sexual favors rather than your work hard.

And if you are involved with your subordinate, you will never gain a faith of your other colleagues.

Its even dangerous if the two of you are peers e.g. if you are seen helping out the love of your life in work, so your colleagues who also need your help, may complain to boss.

Assaulting or harassment

“Women mind and winter wind changes often” – I don’t favor but sometimes its very true.

Males in supervisory positions, having affair with colleagues run the risk of becoming the subject of a sexual harassment.

Women later may claim to have coerced into relationship for fear of her job, but certainly there will be solid reasons behind this e.g. if man dumped the woman for someone else, or was using her, or break the commitment etc.

Today only this happened in my office. One of our colleagues(just of my age) is very open and talks very frankly to all. So accidentally he touched one of our colleagues, that gal claimed that it was intentional.  And now this has become very big issue and he is running risk of his career.

So guys beware of doing any nonsense/ rubbish thing.

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Now lets be pretty optimistic, and evaluate if there are positive points also.

1. You both can have long working hours, as you both want to spend more n more time with each other. So no need to leave the office early, as no one is waiting outside. But your BF is with you, so as soon as you both finish ur work you can leave for dating.

   
   




2. If any of you are scolded by your boss(PL/PM/SPM), you can cry on ur lover’s shoulder;-)

   
   




3. And last but not the least, you wont suspect on ur lover, as both of u r alwaz together.

   
   

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My advice:

Don’t become too friendly to ur colleagues until unless u r also interested, otherwise they may misinterpret. A few examples r there

1· If u r too friendly with ur client(here im talking abt IT industry, and client is not Indian), and ur client cum friend is now senti on you(Bhagwan na kare) and u cant accept his proposal(for obvious reasons), so now u can guess, what will be ur condition(Don’t forget Client is God, ask to ur PM), either you leave the project or resign.

2· If u r too friendly with PL or PM, and he is senti on you or want to date you, pass his time with you, then either you have to fight everyday or escape or change the job ASAP.

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Here are facts & figures of corporate love. A survey conducted by a website, very famous for career information.

1. Have you ever been involved in workplace romance?: 57% say Yes, 32% No, 11% Not willing

   
   




2. Do you try to hide your workplace romance?: 32% Tried but everyone knew anyway, 42% open, 26% hid it.

   
   




3. Is there currently an office romance taking place at your company?: 43% Yes, 19% No, 38% don’t know

   
   




4. Does ur company have a policy on office romances?: 43% Yes, 40% No, 17% don’t know

   
   




5. If you were a manager, what would you do if u found out about a workplace romance?: 58% Interfere only if work was compromised, 13% Nothing, 22% discuss the situation with parties involved, 1% Termination

   
   




6. Have u ever dated ur boss?: 19% Yes, 81% No

   
   

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So now you can judge by urself only, there r so many negative points, and they hide positive ones. And still ppl get involved in workplace romance, as survey also reveals that 57% ppl admit to have.

“One can not escape from cupid’s arrow”.

Happy working and have glorious romance!

Smiles:)

Mona