Equality Not Irresponsibility (Not another Divorce. Review on Dealing with Divorce

Fellow women, mothers, those whos' gender has offered caring arms for all of the generations, have we forgotten who we are? We are supposed to be the pillars/ embracers of the family and lately, it seems so many women care more about pleasing themselves than they do about what their actions do to their loved ones or the existence and importance of the family unit. If you are contemplating a divorce, I challenge you to read through this message and be honest with yourself. Anyone, barring those who have truly been victims of abuse or maybe even adultery, should be trying AT GREAT LENGTHS to fulfill their needs and desires through their family, not forsaking them!!! Life can be so much more rewarding when we talk, share, listen and embrace the love that is the family. The superficial rewards that often tempt us will lose their glamour, that I promise you. There is no glamour in divorce and the pain and suffering that everyone goes through, especially the children. They may get over the initial shock, but the underlying damage is still there, don't kid yourself. Maybe, if you're having marriage problems, you can consider taking a cold hard look at yourself, are you being too hard on your spouse, maybe even selfish and irresponsible?

I am a wife and mother and fairly young, and I still have fun, but I do not go to parties and lose my mind and act like a fool, like so many I have been witness to. I go to parties, but I leave with my respect still in tact. Maybe you do not like what you are reading and that is fine BUT fact is still fact. I am not perfect and I have had marital problems too and they lasted for several years! Yes, years and it left me questioning too, but I always came to one conclusion, I did not want a divorce for my children. I am not saying stay in a miserable marriage for the children, but does it have to be miserable? Have you really given it your all or have you been slightly on the selfish mode? Perhaps a mode that is keeping you from working towards a positive solution? One day, it may surprise you how it could change, especially if you step out of the selfish mode and give your partner a real chance. It's amazing how we, as humans, often change how we act when we are put on or taken off of the self defense mode.

Please, for the sake of your children, remember who it is that you married, a human being who makes mistakes, has been a close witness to your life, who will (more than likely) be the one who will pick up your pieces when you fall apart, is the father or mother of your children, who is your partner and your chosen family. I hope that you have truly given it your all before you decide to throw in the towel, because circumstances can change, especially when you fuel them in a positive direction.