+++ Why Adam Ate Apple ? +++. Review on Common Sexual Problems

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Burp! And I knew, mom taught me not to, in public, but I did. Now cut the crap, it doesn’t affect me, if the opposite gender passing by will have an opinion. They are born to have opinion and they are meant to act ‘sophisticated’, so IGNORE. You truly don’t have to look down to yourself, if they vomited ‘Oh my Gowd’ before you even begun talking SEX/Porn or Kamasutra. Please don’t take it to your heart if instead of ‘Wow’ to your out-of-the-box thought they utter ‘You-guys-are-sick’. Now that’s another matter altogether that all their lives have spend peeping behind your shoulders trying to get a glimpse of that Vogue, or just dying to hear that conversation about your last night’s (con)quest.

But how do I blame them? Every time I hear about an only Gals do or Pajama parties with gals, all my alerts start working.  Its natural, it’s instinctive and it has to be a case.

‘69 with Life, she sucks harder than expected’

This was my status message on chat two days back. To my surprise, from the list of 37 online friends out of which approx 17 belong to the jobless dudes/babes who are always on chat did not buzz me that day. Few did, with only monosyllable ‘Gross’ ‘horrible’ ‘nauseating’ ‘yuck’ … and one could utter a line “For God sake please change the status mess else I will block you’ .

Now when did God tell not to talk about SEX or anything revolving around it? Imagine people feel loathsome just with a status mess or with the word ‘69’. I wonder how different they are from our ex generations Mom/Dads who hide the newspaper if it spoke about ‘ways of kissing’, ‘homosexuality’ or any damn thing on the earth with the S.E.X word flashing somewhere. Sometimes not so well educated Mom’s even used the particular sheet of the newspaper to chop ‘Bhindi’s’ because somewhere it read ‘SenSEX’.

For identical reason, I still feel that HITCH in talking about sex openly in India. It took me 49 reviews on Mouthshut to finally being able to talk on something which I always want to. When I shared with a fellow MSian about the thought  s/he added ‘are you sure?, don’t you think it will effect your image on MS’  - ‘IMAGE ??’ – How can word forms an image of a person?

Let me be politically correct, I am not here to promote SEX. I am here to raise a fact that how Sex is still a behind–the- doors-stuff and is not meant for KIDS… sometimes even to the teenagers. Now how does it matter that wherever they peep (considering the inquisitive nature) and learn from? Don’t We realise if first hand information is not provided humans learns through Trial-n-errors which can actually create a bigger Error in their Life.

‘Child Abuse’ has been discussed earlier in my post and I strongly hold parents responsible for the same as they hesitate talking about ‘Good/Bad Touch’ with their KID. With wrong and abridged versions about sex, they grow up completely unaware of their genitals’ pros and cons.  “Beta aap GOD Gift hai” seems to be the most appropriate answer after ‘Yes/No’ to most of the kids query. GREAT and that’s the reason they bring home ‘GOD GIFT’s’ even before it is required.

Mrs. Panday’s and Mrs Thadani’s of the world, freelance advisor on how-to-raise-kids‘would raise their brow on the ‘short dresses’ of college gals. But will they answer one simple question “Does wrapping a gal in 6 meter saree will protect her? or kills their own son sexual desire? Don’t you think talking about Protected SEX, contraceptives and STDs and Aids will protect them better?

‘I have an Eye on my Daughter, I ensure to meet her friends and keep track of her phone calls’ is a patent dialogue of most of the parents. How far can the eye aka CCTV go? .. To the boys loo – backseat of the car - Extra Classes – combined study at PINKY’s place – where all??? Please do not consider yourself as a superhuman being who can be aware of every move of your kid.

Another abused phrase is ‘our-culture-is-such’. But isn’t there a difference between educating about SEX and promoting SEX in our society? Thinking that not discussing the subject is right approach to inculcate our culture is a myth. Please be assured that not talking about SEX will not make your kid full of values and culture. You can still choose not to tell them but then please wrap a handkerchief on his/her eyes so that they can’t find it on net, magazines, TV, newspapers everywhere.

Now let me remove a Pun here and share what my pal Andy has told me. She never fears guys or eve teasers of her age (read it 20s), its somehow the lewd glances from Males somewhere ready to hit 40 s which she is wary of. Sexual harassments, rapes and s0d0my are probably a result of these oppressions only. Curiosity combined with a reason to uncover FACTS by hook or crook, results in a frustration and eventually an erroneous outlet. Something which is so obvious and secondary to a normal human being is hyped so much that any would like to taste the prohibited.

We-are-waiting-for-the-RIGHT-age says my aunt whose son will be hitting ‘16’ this December. He is smarter than she will ever know. Now kids in themselves are very different from each other some learn faster than expected. So Parents are the right judge to decide the appropriate time, to talk how it all happens. “The stork visited”, “God’s grace” or anything to that effect might be the right approach but what if?? What if that kid got the knowledge the other way..the one which would either make him/her a victim or perhaps the doer of sexual harassments. Isn’t it their right to know that puberty brings along with it a responsibility which might change their life and somebody else’s life, FOREVER?

And please stop thinking that motorbike, Video games are the best gift you can give as they grow up. It’s the right information about things and things not as off titles or special words which convey some meanings. What they need is a direct and matter of fact approach, the one which can affect them in the long run.

Before you gape, utter “gross” and “this is not acceptable”, thousands of times and start nodding that head endlessly, think of the REPERCUSSIONS. Whether it’s the fake coy act bringing on that PINK blush to your cheeks is which matters??  (Result of discussing the topic) Or that BLACK spotwhich will be smeared forever on the life of an individual who was your part and parcel?? (Result of not discussing the topic)

The choice is completely yours Pink or Black…..

P.S: You know why ADAM ate the APPLE ? Becaz God asked him “Not to” but never explained why ?