Leaving A Comment? Do So With Respect!!!. Review on Commenting on Reviews

My Thoughts On Reading, Rating and Leaving Comments

Recently I have noticed a lot of horrible comments left on member’s reviews.  This I find to be very disturbing.  There is a kinder way to leave comments and of course I would like to see all of us do so.  But there is always going to be one or two that just will not!  I don’t know why, but that is just the way people are.  But it has leaded me to write this piece from my heart.  Some of these things I have already said once on the site, but felt they needed to be said again.

I have written about some things that have been very hard for me to do so.  And have been criticized by one or two for doing so.  All I have to say to that is this: You have no idea what a person goes through in life so don't pass judgment! It's not fair to me, to you or to the people reading the review.  And if you have been through it you still don’t have a right to pass judgment!

I see that a lot of people on the site have given just as much hard work to their own reviews as I have and some that have not.  And these reviews are rated according to how the reader feels.  And sometimes there are comments left and sometimes not.  And on occasion I have posted reviews under a category that was not particular correct. But have had MS remove them.  (Still waiting on a place to be made for them though.)

Sometimes people leave good comments and sometimes they don't.  When they do, 'Hey thanks a lot!'  And when they don't'Hey thanks a lot!'  You are all each entitled to your opinion.  And I always welcome all feedback.  As each of us should, but you can and should be respectable in doing so!

But, there is no need in ANYONE being right out mean with his or her comments.  That is WRONG!  And if a person puts their heart and soul into their work, take that into consideration!  Hey you work hard on your reviews, so don't other people have the same right?  Don't we all have the right to be fair, truthful, delighted with what we do or read, and yes of course to be critical.  And there are those who don’t bother to write well at all and trust me they will be rated accordingly!

But let's talk about being critical.  Can any of us honestly say that criticism makes us feel good?  Can any of us honestly say that we truly appreciate criticism?  I can say that I do.  I have learned in life that people are people no matter where you go or who you are.  We are all human and we all have our say about things.  That is the joy of living.  But, when you are purposely trying to be mean, ugly, rude and obnoxious, then you are out of line.  Do you really appreciate it when someone treats you that way?  I certainly hope not!  I know I don't.  If you have something bad to say use the M2M instead.  Consumers don't need to see bickering between the writers of the site.

Remember that you want the same respect.  And also remember that the words you leave are suppose to help the writer not destroy them.  Use words of encouragement not spite.  And always welcome a Newbie!  They need to hear that encouragement!

If you don’t like what the writer had to say think about that first and fore most and actually start your comment as such.  For instance you could say:  “Although I don’t agree with what you have said because…………., I do respect your right to write about it.  I would like to suggest…………, and maybe this will help you out or not.  That is just my thinking.”  And you can leave them a statement letting them know that they could email you if they have questions or want some help and of course to let you know if they re-wrote their work where you can re-rate it.

It is important to people to write what they feel, what they know, and about what they want to write about.  We should keep it clean, detail as much as possible and leave very helpful information.  Remember that we are here to help the consumer and one another.

There have been people that have had their feelings hurt by what people have said in the comment section.  This is what I have to say to those of us who have received such comments.  Roll it off!  The person leaving the comment does have the right to voice their opinion just as you had the right to voice yours.  If you are offended, perhaps you had a reason to be so, but, roll it off.  It’s part of the game of writing and posting reviews.  It comes with the territory.  We all have to take it, it’s the rule.  Email them privately and solve it that way not on the comment section.

But to the ones leaving the comments, remember you don’t want to be made to feel bad either.  Remember that the words you leave behind can and will effect a person and they could start arguments.  And Peace is ALWAYS the answer.  We are here to help the world in some kind of way you know.  And sometimes you can actually make a person want to leave the site.  This is not a good thing at all.

A person can put very little in their review and it still be very helpful to me.  I would rate any review HR if I felt the information was helpful to me.  And I would rate NR if I felt that the review was indeed NR.  It depends on what I got out of the review.  If the review is that of a racist content that is an automatic NR or if the review is that of badgering of another poster that is also an automatic NR.  If the review has nothing to do with the title category that is an automatic NR!

There is a Bible scripture that reads “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”  This is a very important point in life that we all forget about.  If you don’t want it done to you then don’t do it to someone else.  If you want to feel good, then make others feel good.  If you want respect then you have to give it.  If you want to write then do so.  If you want to leave a comment then do so, but remember what you say, what you do will effect others.

And remember this as well:  “You can say anything in this world you want to say, be anything you want to be, go anywhere you want to go, be what you want to be, but once you say it or do it, you can’t take it back.  You might be able to apologize and hope that apology is accepted, but you CANNOT take it back.  So think before you speak!”

We are all human and we all work hard in what we do.  Show some appreciation in life.  You will be happier and go further.

But at the same time you have to make sure that the work is that of the posters and not someone else’s.  So be sure that you know this first hand.  Perhaps you should read any comments already left before you got there and see what is said.

We should write good reviews when we write and of course we want great ratings and comments for doing so.  It’s a reward program in life that we expect!  And we should rate according to the rules of the site.  That is why we have rules in life, to follow them!  And besides, reading is fun, educational and rewarding.  And rating is as well!  Leaving comments can be fun and educational but it can also be hurtful.

Life is to short not to do what you feel is best.

I hope that this has helped in some kind of way.

God Bless!

©LKD 2002