My Shadow doesn’t desert me?. Review on Caring for Aging Parents

*“We Belong To You Not Let Us Down. …Hopes Are Belied When Tyranny Of Age Has Struck Us…Age Has Befallen On Us The Biggest Mockery Of Our Desire To Live To Feel Happy And To Feel Fragrance Of Flowers,

Is Not The Fragrance Of Flowers, Changed For An Old Man…. Feelings And Desire, Hopes Never Changed And These Are For All Poor Old Man”*

General Musings on this topic:

We describe our lifestyle as ‘hi-tech’life= fast life as life has been become more mechanized than earlier bygone ages…the today’s modern man prefers to live life controlled by time not emotions… and this quickie culture is the catchphrase for any successful lifestyle of family.

Gone are the days when people preferred to live in joint families as materialism and urbanization has forced the man to live in their self-absorbed society. Evil shadow has caste it’s effects on the sacred moral fabric that intertwined the society.

I have worked for a NGO and through my personal experiences while working I can tell that its very painful if your family members left you be it your children or be it your near and dear ones.

Only hope for their survival seems to be dejection…as their families discard them as if they are some kind of burden or debt they are paying…

isn’t children has obligation to repay the gratitude of their parents in the form of small token of love, care and understanding forever.

I have written this review for my beloved grandparents who has affectionately given our family one serene thought-“come what ever maybe we are there for each other”

My grandfather has continued working after retirement from Indian Defence Services and he is presently working for the reputed hospital as an accounts advisor and he is associated with the charity foundations run by the hospital management. What I like about my grandfather most is that he has focused his thinking into this good work after two major heart attacks

Sea-Saw relationship exists between Parents and child

The parents have given their children their life, educated them and have enabled them to earn a decent living. No matter how grave is the social or economic problem, youngsters must realize that they should care for their parents and respect them. It’s not a compulsive lecture or a compulsive obligation but it is a fact that their exists a sea saw kind of chemistry between parents and children and we should respect elders to maintain bliss on our family.

Moral turpitude

Ageing parents faced Social, psychological trauma they have to be dependent on shelter homes for their mental and physical comfort…do they deserve it? Does this cycle repeat itself? If no then one has to stop thinking them as a burden.

Generation Next

No doubt the joint-family has it’s own benefits like in times of need; everyone will stand for each other. Grandparents love their Grandchildren and this bond is nurtured through mutual care and love.

Attitudes:

►Younger generation should understand their feelings and emotions and care for these sentiments. Don’t forgot that one day you have to be dependent on next generation?

►And elders should be like guiders to them not intervener on day-to-day affairs.

Problems faced:

►Though some people prefer to be left alone, solitude is one of the main problems for elders.

►Each phase of life has some of its own pluses and minuses so why only count minuses why forget that *minus minus is equal to plus! * So Life after 60 years should not be viewed as “end of chapter” instead should be viewed as “beginning of new chapter” and youngsters can help them in this endeavor.

Count on these factors:

☺Think healthy, Feel healthy and be healthy.

☺Set priorities for coming years. First priority should be your healthy mind and soul.

☺Plan your ideal diet charts.

☺Be intellectually engaged to keep alert mind.

☺Keep your monthly health reports. Watch out progress in health and follow advice of doctor in case of chronic ailment.

☺Economic independence: One can devote time to help needy people I guess that’s the best way one can step forward to keep themselves busy and will get satisfaction in return.

☺One can also follows any cherished and forgotten hobby like-writing book, painting, gardening etc. to keep oneself busy.

☺Last but not least children has to take care of their mental and a physical comfort as hands of an elderly person in a family is a greatest bliss.