Did you ever think of committing suicide? For a split second even??
The very first time I ever thought of the same was during my school days. Exactly saying on an April 1st, the fool's day. I committed a blunder by shouting 'Snake', 'Snake' to attract my friends from neighbourhood but at end some hundreds of people barged to my house from the centre. I was so ashamed and guilt felt. Then the thought on what will be it like once I suicide made my decision immediately shelved.
Today is the day committed to prevent committing suicide. I am from a state which has the most suicide rate. As per statistics, Kerala is having the highest suicide than any other state. There 27 people per day is committing suicide. This disease is killing more people than any war has committed to this world. I think this call to ask for a perfect question, why people are getting suicide? What are the major factors?
I think guilt is the first reason which is leading a person to suicide. When a person cannot pardon himself he finds an easy way in death whereby forgetting all, pardoned by all. Cruel approach of people and never forgiving attitude of society leads to this situation. Religion in a way helps people to get pardoned by them self. Confessions for Christians, Ganga Snan for Hindus and Hajj for Muslims offers a way out from the burden of sin.
When we don't meet our objectives or target…that is the next reason people are committing to death. With great expectations imposed by parents, the number of student suicide is on rise. More and more student counseling is happening. Fear of punishment is the motivational factor here.
Love is the third reason. Our love to things or people blinds our eyes. It works as a curve in the road which blocks the vision of a beautiful garden which we were expecting. When somebody betray us or we betray others we start believing that it is end of the road, where it is only a curve.
Lack of planning is another reason. As on date the number of families committing suicide is on the rise as well. Father and mother give poison to their small children and suicide with them for reasons mainly of financial. When we bite more than our mouth can contain, we are inviting trouble. Window dressing, boasting, depending on future earnings, lack of sense of saving etc. are various forms of this.
What can prevent this great evil to humankind??
1. I think faith or say hope is the first thing which can prevent suicide. We should have the faith in people & religion. Moreover, we should have faith in ourselves and our goals. We should understand that we are part of a great soul who controls and fills this world with power. As St. Paul said it, 'If God is with us, who can stand against us?"
- We should have a goal ahead of us all the time. Many of us live a lazy life because we are feeling very much self sufficient. When we earn a 5 or 6 digit salary and whatever we want can be purchased from the stores we make ourselves believe that we have achieved everything and when emergency calls us or those comfort is gone we are less equipped. Even when we are satisfied with our achievement we should always strive to do things in a new way, to achieve new things, new targets etc.
3. You should have somebody to share your feelings. Somebody to whom you can share your joy, share your sorrows and cry. Even if the person is away, the mere thought of there is a person who can help you will help you to pass the testing moments. Yes, there is somebody in this world who can help you. Search and find him/her…
- Dream; but live in practical world. Don't fly over the sea when we don't know if there is enough petrol to cross the sea. Always test your dreams with a practical approach.
5. Don't live in past money, but don't live with your future earnings as well, but live with present money and save something for future too. Ok, you can use your past money and target the future money and get confidence, but don't depend on it.
Hope! Hope is the best solution. Also believe that there is a way out. If a person don't find no other way to survive just get a ticket and fly…run away…but don't suicide. Life is precious and this world is so big to contain everybody, including you. Let me quote Dostoevsky here. "We analyze 4 or 5 options and decide where nature gives millions of options"
