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Incident 1
I was wearing a dress that covers only up to half of my thighs and I was watching kids playing. He came near me and asked whether he can draw a picture on my thighs? I have agreed with a condition that he should rub it off after making the picture. I felt the tickling sensation when he started drawing with the pen. When he slowly started moving up and when his fingers almost reached near my navel, I could feel something wrong. I resisted but he was persuasive. I started screaming and then he withdraw. Also, he told not to tell any one. I agreed and till now I have not shared it with any one. But today, I am having the boldness to share it with any one as I dont want any girls to pass through this situation.
Forgot to tell you - I was 6 years old and he might be 22 or 23 when this incident occurs.
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Incident 2
Before 3 years, by mistake I got into the normal compartment of local heading to Church Gate from Dadar. Amidst of all bad experiences, I cannot forget the face of the old man who is of my grand father's age who tried to put his hand inside my jacket. My sister always asked me to carry safety pins with me and for the first time I used this. I applied it with my force on his neck and he screamed. Rest - Public hanlded the issue.
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Incident 3
The old professor came behind me and almost rested his body behind me. I turned back and could not speak out of surprise. He stepped back and told "Sorry, many a times I had fantasies about you. You are quite beautiful. Also, the dress you wear reveals your structure and I cannot hold back"
I was wearing a T Shirt and normal jeans. (Not low waist)
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I am sure 99% of Indian Women would have undergone some or the other trauma like this but normally they dont want to discuss this with others. What answers you will get
a) Its ok - It happens everywhere. Try to deal the situation rather than making noise about this
b) Why dont you dress up decently? You wear all such dress which might tempt the guys around (This is the stereotype response which is quite famous. So, it is the duty and responsibility of every women to wear something that shall not arouse the fantasies of men around. Men have got all freedom to explore his fantaises ------ )
Somehow, I feel etiquettes need to be taught in all institutions - starting from family to school to college to work place. How to deal with opposite sex shall not be defined by rules or code of conduct but still the gravity of the situation is so grave that at every stage of life we have to educate everyone (both the sex).
And you will agree to the fact than women abuse is on the higher side and we are living in a country were saints proclaimed that "Yatra Naryastu Pujyante Ramante Tatra Devata" (Where women are worshipped, there you will find god)
Test for you ----
a) And any one who read the traumatic expereinces which I have explained above as entertaining stuff - Please do treat yourself. You are sick. And if time permits, please check with your mother / sister / wife / daughter - whether you had any bad experiences? Majority of girls wont even discuss it with you!
b) For those who feel embarassed at the incidents - yes, we want people like you in the society. Try to treat your sick friends.
Sorry for strong words - but I want to put everything with 100% intensity!
