We've all heard the sayings: "Kill them with kindness." or "You'll attract more bees with honey!"
Here it is:
Use the power of graciousness. Graciousness is simply a kindness of spirit. In order to transform difficult relationships, we need to project kindness. I understand this can be tough. At this point, it will help you to keep your priorities in mind. Additionally, think of the benefits you'll gain as a result of your efforts. Don't pick difficult people apart and complain. Simply take corrective action, and focus on the positives.
Thank difficult people verbally or through a hand written note for anything you possibly can, including advice, a response you've been waiting for, their interest, etc. This is a powerful strategy. It reinforces the desired behavior. If you're offered advice, don't debate why it won't work simply say, Thank You I'll keep that in mind. This reduces the stress that you'll feel. Additionally, it takes away the tension and negative energy that usually accompanies these encounters. Remember, it's not about being right -- it is about transforming a relationship.
Relationships with difficult people can be transformed from
difficult to pleasant. The strategies I've introduced are simple,
but the follow through can be tough. It's up to you to answer the question --Is it worth it? I've had much success when I've
implemented the above strategies, and I know that they will work for you. Simply open your mind to the possibility that difficult relationships can be transformed, follow through on the above strategies, and always remain optimistic. Get ready to experience the joy that new positive and productive relationships will bring you!
Leadership
When I give a minister an order, I leave it to him to find the
means to carry it out. - Napoleon Bonaparte
