Apr 03, 2004 12:34 AM
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(Updated Dec 03, 2005 01:31 PM)
*an·ger n.*
A strong feeling of displeasure or hostility.
*Synonyms:** anger, rage, fury, ire, wrath, resentment, indignation
These nouns denote varying degrees of marked displeasure. Anger, the most general, is strong displeasure: Rage and fury imply intense, explosive, often destructive emotion:
In short . Anger is almost always destructive! It's a state of'Temporary insanity'
*Why does one get angry? *
A feeling of:
**1st: Being wronged:**
Could be in both personal and professional life. This feeling increases in intensity if one has little or no scope to give vent to one's anger. A feeling of helplessness creeps in.
**2nd: Deprivation / Cheated:**
Not getting what is due . Especially when one has worked hard for that! Worse if one is cheated! Almost a sure case scenario to induce anger.
**3rd: Frustration:**
Reasons could be many & the spectrum very wide. Ranging from being unsuccessful in:
? Education
? Professional life.
? Love & married life
**4th: Ridiculed:**
Even the coolest of em all will have a limit to tolerate' Ridicule'!
Think about it! Ridicule, lowers one's self esteem to a point where one loses self-control and sometimes leading to uncontrollable anger.
**5th: For no reason at all(This is the most worrying one!):**
How often we have seen people or experienced it ourselves! Anger for no rhyme or reason! This one is the worst & it can transform one's personality from' Congenial' to'Hostile' without any apparent reason leading to misunderstandings, quarrels, animosity & sometimes'Broken Hearts'I suspect this stems from .
a. Desire to attract attention
b. Project an' Angry young man'image( Big B?) which is considered very macho.
I have few very simple tips to control anger . It works for an imbecile like me & I don?t see any reason why it shouldn't for anyone else!
*1. Proper Sleep & rest: *
Reduces anxiety & stress . More often than not, when we'Sleep over it' we get up with a more positive frame of mind & if not totally eliminated we have a better grip on our anger. A fresh mind sees'reason' &'logic'!
*2. Soothing music: *
'If music be the food of love play on'*. Nothing is more healing for jarred nerves than soothing music! It always calms me down. It makes me look at things with saner perspectives.
*3. Prayers / meditation:*
There are times when I am very angry I take refuge in God. I believe this helps me in not doing things or indulge in acts for which I might regret later. Meditation is a sure panacea for any state of anger.
There are few other things which reduces / helps me control my anger .
? Being amongst kids
? Walking in a garden with lots of flowers
? Playing with pets .
? Going for a quite walk by the river or sea side .
? Grandma's recipe: counting backwards from 100( it actually works!)
*However there are times when you ought to get angry!Your anger instills a sense of pride in you & then drives you to higher heights of endeavour.*
But all said and done, my advice to all .
Don't worry be happy
~
'Don't let your bed of sorrow
Ever conquer your pride
Remember there's always a way out
Just take up a course in happiness
Take up a course to clear out your mind
You will show your self how to smile
Take up a course in happiness
Take up a free instruction in life
You will learn how to smile'
Stevie Wonder
