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Thanx for coming.........Bye....Goo d night!!!
Jul 03, 2002 07:59 PM 2807 Views
(Updated Jul 06, 2002 01:56 PM)

In India we have this great tradition that a guest ought to be treated like a God. We don’t mind suffering & facing discomforts ourselves but we never let our guest feel neglected. Sometimes people take undue advantage of this tradition and abuse our hospitality….

My Review:

Welcoming the guests:

The first greetings are very important. When the hosts greet their guests with genuine warmth, they make the guests feel happy & glad they came over for party. You should go forward & receive the guests yourself(don’t send your servants to receive them). And remember it is considered polite on the part of the host to rise & receive all the guests, including childrens…If the party is for a small group, each arrival should be introduced to the entire group. And if the party is for a large number of people, your duty is to make introductions amongst a few who would have something or the other in common(Make sure the new arrival is comfortable before leaving him or her to attend other guests).

Drinks should be offered to guests upon their arrival. Don’t wait to start serving drinks until all the guests arrive. There are times when you may have to face the embarrassment of having a guest who after a few drinks may lose control.Hmmmm.What will you do then….In such situation you have to be very tactful & its better if you use your judgment¬†¬†to save the situation. However, the best solution will be to close such a guest in the bathroom……

The host should keep up the party spirit & ensure that everyone is having a good time. At the same time, you have to remember that since you are the chief organizer i.e. host then you have other duties too, such as making sure glasses are refilled, snacks are circulated, cassettes are changed & so on. And remember speak loudly with your servants during the party(barking orders all the time in front of the guests shows lack of refinement. If a guest happens to break something accidentally then you should not get upset(Even if it was supposed to be your wedding gift). All present in the party will be watching your reaction & will applaud you if you pass this test with a comment like “Oh! I thought I am the only one who drops things, I now have a partner”. Showing your displeasure & making the already embarrassed guest feel like committing suicide is a sign of ill-breeding.

While eating always make sure to keep pace with the guests. If one finds a guests eating slowly then even you should reduce your pace & keep pace with him/her. This is to prevent the guest from realizing that he/she is holding up the meal for everyone. If a guests realises he/she is slow, they will be embarrassed & stop eating half way(simply to keep up with the rest).

As the evening progresses:

Once the guests arrive the host should spend as little time in the kitchen as possible & spend the maximum time circulating amongst friends. When the dinner is ready to be served, the host should announce at least 10mins in advance & ask the guests if they want to use the bathroom(But before that don’t forget to remove the drunken guest from the bathroom)….Care should be taken that dinner is served on time. It should neither be early nor too late. It’s also considered good to invite everyone to the table(Make sure you invite ladies before the men). The guests should be helped to identify the food kept on the table & gently coaxed to try various dishes(But don’t force them to eat things they don’t like).

If you finds that all the guests look too comfortable seated, chances are that they will be reluctant to make the effort to get up for a second helping. At times like this is the host want justice to be done to him/her food, they should have the main serving dishes brought to the guests.

Seeing off the guests:

When the party comes to an end, the host should stand together near the door & bid goodbye to their guests. Incase of senior dignitaries & old guests the host should see them off to the outer gate or their car. Make sure you make your guests understand that they are pleased the guests took the trouble of attending your party at least for some time in spite of their busy schedules.

Note: If frequent entertaining is going to be in your social life, it is worthwhile to cultivate the habit of keeping a “Book/ Diary”. Writing down plans, ideas & requirements helps in organizing events efficiently as well as tastefully.

Trick when someone comes unexpectedly:

Keep a hat/cap near your front door. Whenever the doorbell rings put the hat/cap on. If its someone you wished to see, remark saying “How lucky you are….I am just back from the market”. If its someone you want to avoid desperately then say “How sorry I am…Was just leaving for the market”….

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