To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved. But What does it mean when 100 MSians tag you to the trust list. Frankly it really does not mean anything to me because Trust is a mind thing which need not be acknowledged.
Trusting people in Mouthshut is the most unique and beautiful part because most of the members whom you trust or who trust you were not physically seen by you or by them and were not involved in even a single one to one meeting. Then how do you build this trust and how this bondage evolves into a kind of love, affection and most importantly a sense of belonging, a sense of appreciation and a sense of understanding.
That is human relationship which does not speak any language and which does not need any physical chain-then what is the circle for.
I always keep stressing the fact that. There is no first among equals in MS where the opportunities are equal for everyone though each one of us likes to put things as per our opinion and style which in itself is honest and clean way of looking at the same product in different perspectives. There may be an argument that soap is soap which ever way you look at it, but it does not give the same satisfaction to every user.
When you start thinking that everyone is equal in this platform, then you start building your trust with people who vibe with you and with people who share similar wavelength like you.
When I mentioned in my profile that I Trust all MSians who trust me ,it means as for as I am concerned that I believe in mutual trust which need not be acknowledged by saying ,”yes I have tagged you and you have tagged me kind of drawing circles in between.”
How often we meet and make friend-ship with passengers who are unanimous to us in a Train when you happen to travel for hours. More often than not, we tend to forget them when we come out of the station. But in the case of Mouthshut, it is like a ship where we all travel over a longer period of time from 6 months to many years. This period is good enough to make several good friends from the MS (NEED NOT BE IN TRUSTED CIRCLE) especially when we are young and have time and space to spend with hem.
Over a period of time, we find that some of the MSians build this relationship on one to one basis or in small groups. Many new comers generally feel that the older MSians form groups and RRC only members in their group which is absolutely wrong.
If you do not care to read others revs, how will you build a MS community relationship? If my neighbouring flat owner wants to keep his door shut to all flat members, then he becomes alien to everyone, but it is wrong on his part to feel left out in Association matters.
This healthy trust you can find many times when you read comments from the members. For example when Rajeev (psyxx) came back with rev, you will find all the members who are close to him comment on his rev even if they are not active in MS.
You can find this very often with Anuj and Rohit. Similarly Zulu bhai finds great regard from Megs and Abha & Mags write comments as if they ate on same plate. Reddy Garu ™ and NVRam seem to have a kind of lovely understanding. This goes on with many members.
The same way I feel very related with Mayank, Ratna, Santosh, Niks, Nishant,Madan, Juzer,Sarvesh,Anton, Mags,abha,aditya,Reddy,NV,Pras,Shyam,BG the senior pros, farookh and Jaideep . . . . and it goes on & on and it really does not matter as to how many are in the circle created by MS which is a mere entity. However it matters to me a lot when they RRC my reviews.
Funny enough, sometimes you would never have added somebody to your trust Circle in spite of the fact that you know him or her for long time and yet you have missed it. Similarly I found it very amusing that the most loveable person in MS does not have anyone in his trust list. But Santosh has everyone in his heart because he reads and knows more MSians and their style and behaviour than any one of us. Another guy is Anton who wants only peace and will come to everyone’s space. Does it mean that they do not trust anybody na na.
What makes people distrust you?
To understand why people distrust you is more complex. Four members distrust me but I do not know them as yet. I even sent an M2M asking them reasons for that just to introspect. They have not read the M2M also and they have not been involved in MS at all. I went back to all my 87 reviews to see their signature (rating) or comments to study this.
I realized that Shutmouth did not like me placing Getz as better car than Swift in my rev which 400 other MSians did not feel. The same I found with aravi28 who incidentally made a distrust of 12 others also just because he was obsessed with Swift.
Moola_kame is one whose profile reads 00000 and I could not understand why he distrusts me.
Sometimes you get into someone’s distrust just because you give a rating of SU or NU ( I found this in the case of Tarzan007) to one of their revs which clearly shows the nature of some MSians who are emotionally charged and think out of their minds.
Many MSians also get offended by comments and take it to their heart than to the mind which could also be one of the reasons.
Simply to say that don’t worry if somebody distrusts you because life goes on and when somebody trusts you, you need to take it in the same vein. It is for you to decide whether to reciprocate because there is no fixed criteria to decide on when to trust somebody more than whether to trust somebody. It is enough if you trust your mind.
At least it is not a vicious circle to get paranoid but tend to feel that is such a circle necessary in MS. Why?
It was merely introduced by MS for building community.
What are we doing here instead of reading and writing on products, forming circles, lines and ellipses (and someone who does not open acct but will have huge trust list)?
When a trusted circle gets into comments, it merely becomes a chatting site.
End of the day, there is nothing called as Circle to describe human relations who are not bound by lines or boundaries to be called as Trusted Circle. To sum up, drawing Trust circle leads to only an imaginary world map which is not even good for my kid to study Geography.
Trust is only a beginning; there is no end to it.
Thanks for reading & trusting me