The science of Anger :

Self-control helps one avoid physiological and psychological harm as well as gain great rewards from Allâh for his patience.

A man came to The Prophet of Mohammed (may the peace & blessings of Allah be upon him), saying, “ ‘O Prophet of Allâh, command me.’ The Prophet replied, ‘Do not lose your temper.’ “

The Prophet, (pbuh), also said, “Strength is in the power to control oneself in anger, not in the size of the muscles.”

The advice of the Prophet, (pbuh), to control one’s temper was based upon his knowledge of the harmful effects of stress and anger on the person himself as well as on those surrounding him. At the same time he knew that this advice was not easy to follow so he described a strategy that a person may use to control his anger. He was asked, “ ‘So messenger of Allâh, what is the treatment [for anger] ?’ The Prophet, (pbuh) said, ‘If a man gets angry while he is sitting standing up, he should sit until he regains composure. Otherwise, he should lie down.’

To truly appreciate the advice of The Prophet of Allâh, one must investigate in more depth the impact of anger on the body and how changing one’s position relates to being angry. The feeling of anger creates hormonal activities in the body. A gland named the adrenal gland situated on top of each of the kidneys controls this activity. The hormone adrenaline is secreted by the adrenal gland in response to any physical or emotional stress the body undergoes. Such stress could be fear, anger, or a drop in blood-sugar level, disease or surgery. The adrenal gland also secretes another hormone, noradrenaline, even though the main source of this hormone is the sympathetic nerve endings at the heart. Both of the hormones are related to each other and are secreted into the body together.

One of the effects of anger, is the increased production of these two hormones. Since one of the two hormones is secreted by the heart, in a situation of anger, the heart is caused to work harder. The heartbeat becomes faster and with an irregular pattern. This change in the heart is so intense, it can be felt by some people while they are under stress. In addition, by becoming angry and overworking the heart, the contractions of the heart muscles increase in order to supply more oxygen, placing pressure on the arteries. For this reason, people with heart problems endangering their health when they become angry. Patients with narrow arteries are at risk for heart attacks, as their arteries may not withstand sudden rushed of blood to the heart.

This brings us to the prescription given to us by The Prophet,(pbuh) Harrison, a renowned medical writer, states: “It is scientifically proven that the amount of noradrenaline in the blood can double or triple while standing quietly for five minutes. Adrenaline is raised slightly by standing. But different kinds of mental stress can significantly increase the blood adrenaline level.”

Simply standing quietly for five minutes may double the noradrenaline in the blood while slightly raising the adrenaline, a hormone mainly increased by anger and stress. Obviously becoming angry while standing would place great pressure on the body.

Such is the value of the words of the Prophet (pbuh)fifteen centuries ago, before the development of sophisticated medical investigation and study. “If a man becomes angry while standing, he should sit down until he regains his composure. Otherwise, he should lie down.” A medical prescription for all times.

Perhaps, this is why the Prophet Mohammed (pbuh)emphasised the avoidance of anger by repeating his advice three times: “Do not get angry".

RAMADAN - Mending habits and developing character :

Ramadan is the month of heightened Allah-consciousness, of attaining taqwa (piety) of training ourselves to be the best we can be, a month to initiate improvement of reputation, character and for the cultivation of good habits.

People who try their best to live by the highest values are surely people of integrity and indeed people of moral conscience. What is morality though?

Morality describes the principles that govern our behavior and relates to our behavior at three levels...

How we as individuals ensure that we are honest, just and compassionate.

How we interact with and contribute to society, as asset or liability.

How conscious we are of our accountability to our Creator.

Taqwa in an amoral world :

In a world, increasingly amoral, perception is considered reality. How one appears to the world has overtaken the substance of who we really are. Impressions, whether real or fake, are given more credence than it deserves.

Though name, image and reputation are what we perceive of people, character is the essence of the "real self". Taqwa is in reality character development coupled with God-consciousness.Character and reputation

Character is not only the face in the mirror, but the real person behind the face. Character evolves from conscience, is sustained by conscience and is developed, piece by piece, with every thought, with every choice, and maintained with consistency and determination. The pursuance of piety begins by making our reputation a reflection of our character. In many people, reputation precedes character and there is a distinction to be made...

Reputation is what you lead others to believe you are, character is what you really are - Reputation may be reflected in the combination of your name and your image, character is the essence of your being. Reputation is the wrapping, character the content - Reputation is the outer reflection, character the inner reality - Reputation is made in a moment, character is built in a life time - Reputation may be reflected in what people write about you on your tombstone, character is what angels report about you to Allah -

Changing bad habits:

The renowned philosopher, Aristotle, once said; " You are what you repeatedly do ". Habits are conditioned responses, formed through repetition, until the actions or reactions become second nature; they end up as unconscious behavior, automatic reactions in a particular situation; (e.g. The way you sign your name, the reprehensible habit of cigarette smoking after a meal...)

It was the English writer, Shakespeare, who said, " First we make our habits, then our habits make us ". Thinking in a particular pattern creates a mental path, the mental path affects our attitude and our behavior, and these reflect our personality and character. In other words, our thoughts affect our attitude which affect our actions which determine our habits which reflects our character which could determines our destiny. The Roman poet Naso Ovid rightly said, " habits eventually become character ".Virtues and vices

According to Islam, habits are classified as virtues or vices, as repeated actions that are in conformity with or contrary to the rules of morality. Virtuous character emanates from good habits and good habits emanate from resisting negative temptations. Good habits, unfortunately, seem so much easier to give up than bad habits.

Ramadan is an ideal training period for filtering out bad habits, developing virtuous character and is thus referred to by Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) as a shield against evil and wrongfulness. We are obligated to nurture our noble qualities, control our passions, our anger and emotions. We are instructed to be considerate, generous and compassionate.Moral improvement and spiritual rejuvenation

Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) referred to Ramadan as a blessed month in which Allah has made fasting obligatory on those who are able, whosoever denies himself of the benefits of that month denies himself many virtues. As we undertake the physical duty and spiritual responsibility of fasting in the blessed month of Ramadan, we reflect on the words of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) who said that the practice of faith will not be correct unless actions are correct and actions will not be considered correct unless the heart is correct.

Stop Smoking !

The head of the World Health Organization says anti-smoking campaigns are the world's best weapon in the fight against cancer

WHO chief Margaret Chan says ``tobacco control'' efforts such as advertising bans, higher cigarette taxes and help for people wanting to quit would reduce cancer cases.

Chan says prevention measures are the most cost-effective way to limit the impact of the disease that kills almost 8 million people worldwide each year. One example is China, where about 3,000 people, or 1.1 million a year, die every day due to smoking.

Chan says cancer treatment is beyond the means of many of the world's poor. She spoke at the start of an international meeting of 2,500 cancer experts in Geneva.

Marry Or 20 Years In Jail :

A woman awoke during the night to find that her husband was not in bed.

She put on her robe and went downstairs. He was sitting at the kitchen table with a cup of coffee in front of him. He appeared to be deep in thought, just staring at the wall. She saw him wipe a tear from his eye and take a sip of his coffee.

"What's the matter dear? Why are you down here at this time of night?" she asked.

"Do you remember 20 years ago when we were dating and you were only 16?" he asked.

"Yes I do." she replied.

"Do you remember when your father caught us in the back seat of my car?"

"Yes I remember."

"Do you remember your father when he shoved that shotgun in my face and said.'Either you marry my daughter or spend twenty years in jail'?"

"Yes I do", she replied.

He wiped another tear from his cheek and said, " You know I would have gotten out today."

You still have a car !

Dear MSians,,, I recived a interesting mail ,I would like to share

After shopping for most of the day, a couple returns to find their car has been stolen. They go to the police station to make a full report. Then, a detective drives them back to the parking lot to see if any evidence can be found at the scene of the crime. To their amazement, the car has been returned.

There is an envelope on the windshield with a note of apology and two tickets to a music concert. The note reads, "I apologize for taking your car, but my wife was having a baby and I had to hot-wire your ignition to rush her to the hospital. Please forgive the inconvenience. Here are two tickets for tonight's concert of Garth Brooks, the country-and-western music star."

Their faith in humanity restored, the couple attend the concert and return home late. They find their house has been robbed. Valuable goods have been taken from thoughout the house, from basement to attic. And, there is a note on the door reading, "Well, you still have your car. I have to put my newly born kid through college somehow, don't I?"

Dear friends, I would like to share few interesting quotes on marriage,I hope you too would find it very interesting.

Marriage quotes:

Love is one long sweet dream, and marriage is the alarm clock.

They say when a man holds a woman's hand before marriage, it is love; after marriage, it is self-defense.

When a newly married man looks happy, we know why. But when a ten-year married man looks happy, we wonder why.

There was this lover who said that he would go through hell for her. They got married, and now he is going through hell.

By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher. -- Socrates

Marriage is a mutual relationship if both parties know when to be mute.

Marriage is a trip between Niagara Falls and Reno.

Marriage is a rest period between romances.

Marriage is a three ring circus: engagement ring, wedding ring, and suffering.

A husband is what's left of the lover after the nerve has been extracted. -- Helen Rowland

My Dear Friend Tanna.....

A true friendship unexpectedly and innocently found online,Who would have ever known that we would find this.Sharing thoughts and life experiences learned through time,It was then discovered that this true friendship was a welcomed wish.

Dear Tanna I am dedicating these beautiful line to ....U



TANNA..... My Friend or An Angel .....

You're so special, so loving, you mean so much to me

An angel from heaven, hmmm that can't possibly be

How could I describe you, it takes such great ease,

Your aura, your nature, it's like a fresh breeze,

The love of your heart is so good to be true,

You don't know how lucky I feel to have a friend like you!

With Regards...

Mazhar Nawaz

TRUE FRIENDSHIP ....

Choose friends wisely, the portrait they paint
Is who you are and who you ain't.
Friendship is life's great support
When friends are of the right sort.
For all your dreams do they make room,
Or bring you down with doom and gloom?
You will know a friendship is true
When it brings out the best in you.

By : David Leonhardt


A true friendship should:
Encourage you to live your dream.
Support you toward your goals.
Sympathize for your losses and help you find a silver lining.
Build your self-esteem.

If happiness and life-satisfaction are your goals, your friends should be chosen on the basis of how well they can accomplish those four goals.
It's true. You can tell a person by the company they keep. Our friendships not only tell a lot about who we are -- they make us who we are.

HAPPY FRIENDSHIP DAY

Just Sing For Me
Will you sing for me?
I want to hear your voice
People say it is very free
No, I give you no choice.

Do you remember me at all?
Your words recall days gone by
Well, you don’t know my call
Can you hum my name, oh try?

I hold my head high waiting
You go back home misgiving
Crying, not singing, but praying
How I want to reach out and give.

You return to barren streets
I wish to go there with you
The music plays with no weep
My love for you is very true.

Why can you not understand?
Time doesn’t stand still today
Will you play freely in band?
The keys flow right this way.

Goodbye my friend evermore
I will no longer utter for you
The words are no longer more
Live long and be with the few.

Dear Friends On 27th july my son Athar is completing one year.These lines Iam dedicating to my life & Happiness ....Athar.



I Dont Allways Tell You :

I don't allways tell you
How you fill my heart with cheer
And how happy I am
Whenever you are near

I don't allways tell you
That the love you give
Brightens every day
That I live

I don't allways tell you
What's in my heart
That you are the most
Important part

I don't allways thank you
For the many things you do
Or tell you how much
I really love you

Happy Birthday